While there are several personality traits present in human beings, there are three we specifically need to be wary of. These three together are called the Dark Triad Personality (DTP) traits.
Narcissism, Machiavellianism, and Psychopathy make up the DTP traits. They are represented by extreme self-absorption, a tendency to be devious and conniving, and a complete disregard for others’ feelings.
We still have not discovered the exact number of people living who manifest these traits but research has estimated that about 1% – 10% of the population are DTPs.
These people are quite self-absorbed and find it hard to look at the world through someone else’s perspective. This attitude seeps into their relationships, making them domineering and cruel.
They use their romantic partners to further their own ends, often gaslighting them so that they can control them. Once they finish serving their purpose, they’re instantly abandoned.
This has raised a very pertinent question about DTPs. Can they really love any children they might have?
Narcissists can only truly love themselves
Perpetua Neo, a psychologist, and therapist who has done extensive research on DTPs has confirmed that narcissists cannot ever really love anyone else.
She points out that those who are narcissists or psychopaths or sociopaths lack one very important attribute – empathy. Without empathy, they don’t feel connected to other people at all and hence they cannot love them.
Narcissists only see their children as a thing to own in order to serve some purpose for them. A normal family will love the child and teach them how to make their own way into the world. They will try to give their child a sense of self-independent from that of the parents.
Neo says that narcissists only encourage their children so that they can show them off like a trophy once they achieve something great. For this, they will control every single aspect of their existence.
They will pry so much that the child will not know that they too can set emotional boundaries that even people close to them cannot cross.
The child will also have to carry a burden not usually thrust on those their age. Since narcissists are usually very insecure, they’ll use their child as a companion on whom they can unload their insecurities and get an ego boost.
They will ensure that it is hard for their children to form lasting, healthy relationships outside of the family. It will be difficult for them to enter a romantic relationship because the parent will always be trying to control who they interact with.
The child will have to be an outlet for all the narcissist’s emotions
The narcissist will take out all their issues with their child, both physically and mentally. Of course, this will not be so easy once the child grows older as they will then be able to recognize the abuse for what it is.