The Sad Truth About Why Psychopaths Are Unable to Love Even Their Own Children

While there are several personality traits present in human beings, there are three we specifically need to be wary of. These three together are called the Dark Triad Personality (DTP) traits.

Narcissism, Machiavellianism, and Psychopathy make up the DTP traits. They are represented by extreme self-absorption, a tendency to be devious and conniving, and a complete disregard for others’ feelings.

We still have not discovered the exact number of people living who manifest these traits but research has estimated that about 1% – 10% of the population are DTPs.

These people are quite self-absorbed and find it hard to look at the world through someone else’s perspective. This attitude seeps into their relationships, making them domineering and cruel.

They use their romantic partners to further their own ends, often gaslighting them so that they can control them. Once they finish serving their purpose, they’re instantly abandoned.

This has raised a very pertinent question about DTPs. Can they really love any children they might have?

 

Narcissists can only truly love themselves

Perpetua Neo, a psychologist, and therapist who has done extensive research on DTPs has confirmed that narcissists cannot ever really love anyone else.

She points out that those who are narcissists or psychopaths or sociopaths lack one very important attribute – empathy. Without empathy, they don’t feel connected to other people at all and hence they cannot love them.

Narcissists only see their children as a thing to own in order to serve some purpose for them. A normal family will love the child and teach them how to make their own way into the world. They will try to give their child a sense of self-independent from that of the parents.

Neo says that narcissists only encourage their children so that they can show them off like a trophy once they achieve something great. For this, they will control every single aspect of their existence.

They will pry so much that the child will not know that they too can set emotional boundaries that even people close to them cannot cross.

The child will also have to carry a burden not usually thrust on those their age. Since narcissists are usually very insecure, they’ll use their child as a companion on whom they can unload their insecurities and get an ego boost.

They will ensure that it is hard for their children to form lasting, healthy relationships outside of the family. It will be difficult for them to enter a romantic relationship because the parent will always be trying to control who they interact with.

 The child will have to be an outlet for all the narcissist’s emotions

The narcissist will take out all their issues with their child, both physically and mentally. Of course, this will not be so easy once the child grows older as they will then be able to recognize the abuse for what it is.

When the child starts resisting, the parent will then turn to subtler methods like slowly destroying their self-esteem.

The parent till will age and the accompanying health issues and changes in their body will only add on to their already existing insecurity. They will also have to watch the child grows stronger and more aware of their own identity.

It will be difficult for the parent to accept that their child is slipping out of their control so they start working harder by constantly making derogatory comments about the child’s appearance or skills.

Simultaneously, they will be first in line to take credit for whatever their child achieves. For example, if the child is skilled at sports, they will boast about how they worked hard to buy them equipment and pay for lessons, even if they didn’t have much part in it.

 

The ‘blue-eyed boy’ vs. the fall guy

The family dynamic will change according to the number of children the DTP parent has.

If they have more than one child, Neo shows a distinct pattern in the way the power dynamic changes in the family. One of the children will become the blue-eyed kid who will always be pampered and petted.

Of course, this doesn’t mean anything good for the child. They will always be scared that their actions will earn the disapproval of the DTP parent so they always stay out of trouble in order to earn their parent’s love.

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