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11 Things Narcissists Can’t Stand (Makes Them Miserable)

Things Narcissists Can’t Stand

Narcissists can’t stand your happiness at any cost; as long as you are unhappy and miserable, they feel on top of the world. But there are certain things narcissists can’t stand and which make THEM miserable. This insightful article will speak in detail about what narcissists can’t stand.

I will take you on a fascinating journey in today’s article regarding the 11 things narcissists can’t stand.

I’m sure you’re curious to know exactly what stops them in their tracks and causes them to run the other way.

And, believe me, you actually have way more power to stand up to them and repel them than you think you do. You ARE totally capable of stopping them from hurting you and making your life unbearable.

On this journey I want to start with the things that get under their skin, leading all the way up to what is ABSOLUTELY intolerable for them!

Including the number one thing, above all else, that narcissists simply cannot stand!

Right, let’s get going.

Related: Why Malignant Narcissists Inflict Great Harm, But Benign Narcissists (Benign Narcissism) Don’t

What Narcissists Can’t Stand: 11 Things That Make Them Miserable

1. Not Getting Enough Narcissistic Supply

If a narcissist is running low on supply, which means the attention that allows them to feel like they are significant and exist, then a gnawing emptiness and anxiety start to bubble up from within them.

And, it is obvious. You will see the stark difference between when a narcissist is high as a kite with enough narcissistic supply (attention) to feed his or her insecure and demanding ego, and when he or she is not being fed supply how a darkness and moodiness become apparent.

This is the danger zone, where the narcissist can turn on you or must abandon the scene, escaping to access much-needed supply out in the world in an attempt to escape the self-annihilating inner feelings of the defective and deeply insecure Inner Being.

2. People Not Believing They Are An Authority

Narcissists need people to believe that they are special, talented, and knowledgeable.

They can suffer big-time narcissistic injury if someone who has more experience and knowledge than they do, enters a conversation. They may try to take over and not let the other person speak or change the subject.

If this is not possible, they will leave. Then, of course, dismantle this person’s credibility afterward.

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3. You Being Happy

This is such a reminder to the narcissist that you are able to access and experience good feelings, whereas he or she feels dead on the inside.

This is an added insult to the narcissist if your good feelings are to do with someone or something other than the narcissist.

The narcissist believes that they should be the center of your universe. And, how dare you be happy, when the narcissist can’t be. He or she will do anything to take away your good feelings.

what narcissists can't stand
Narcissists can’t stand your happiness

4. You Being Successful

As far as the narcissist is concerned, it is they who should be receiving all the acclaim, attention, and accolades.

He or she is pathologically jealous and envious if you receive any recognition. It is likely that you will be punished for taking away some of what narcissists need to survive – precious significance.

Related: What Makes A Narcissists Unhappy: 5 Things That Annoy Narcissists

5. Others Being More Attractive Than Them

Narcissists, due to their delusional version of self, believe that they are the most desirable person going.

If someone else turns up commanding attention for their looks or personality, then the narcissist will be furious and will attempt to demean them as much as possible. They may purposefully keep their partners away from such a person, because of their horrific insecurities.

6. Having Limits Imposed

Narcissists hate boundaries. They hate being told what to do, as they feel like this is intolerable control. They like to be completely non-accountable to others. To be like a normal person feels like a terrible horror to them.

They are a law unto themselves. Narcissists believe they should be able to have what they want, when they want, and how they want. And how dare anybody tell them differently!

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Melanie Tonia Evans

Melanie Tonia Evans is a global narcissistic abuse recovery expert and the creator of the Quanta Freedom Healing method and The Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Program (NARP). Melanie’s leading-edge healing methods have helped thousands of people make astounding full recoveries from toxic relationship abuse. Her work has now touched the lives of over 15 million people from more than 100 countries worldwide and her abuse recovery system is recommended by doctors, psychologists, therapists, and renowned relationship experts from all over the world. Melanie’s work is revolutionizing the old Model of Survivor Recovery to one of Thriver status. The free content Melanie offers on abuse recovery reaches close to 7 million people monthly on her website and across her numerous social media platforms and her reach continues to grow exponentially. In 2018, Melanie released her first book, You Can Thrive After Narcissistic Abuse - The #1 System for Recovering from Toxic Relationships which became an Amazon bestseller in days, and is now being translated into multiple languages. Free 16 Day Recovery Course – A Roadmap To Getting Clarity, Relief and Your Life Back On TrackView Author posts