Every parent wants their kid to grow up to become a successful adult. But unfortunately most of the parents are not equipped with the right parenting tools that will ensure the same.
If you are looking for some guidance on how to raise your kids into successful, healthy and happy adults, read on.
According to research and psychology, the parents of successful kids have these 9 traits in common.
1) They make the kids do their own chores
Julie Lythcott-Haims, author of “How to Raise an Adult”, mentioned in a TED talk,
“If kids aren’t doing the dishes, it means someone else is doing that for them, and so they’re absolved of not only the work, but of learning that work has to be done and that each one of us must contribute for the betterment of the whole.”
When kids learn that they have to do their chores by themselves during their developmental phase they grow up to be adults who are well aware of their responsibility of carrying their own weight and also contributing to the society.
Such kids also grow up to be better employees who know that they have to collaborate with their colleagues and have greater degree of empathy, have higher degree of autonomy and ability to carry out tasks independently.
2) They teach their kids social and emotional skills
In research conducted by Pennsylvania State University and Duke University, more than 700 children across US between the age of kindergarten and age 25 were tracked for a correlation between social skills as a kindergartner and their success as adults decades later.
The 20 year long study proved that kids who were taught social and emotional skills during childhood were far more likely to earn a college degree and get a full time job by age of 25 as compared to those who with limited social skills. This study shows that helping children develop social and emotional skills is one of the most important things we can do to prepare them for a better future.
From an early age, these skills can determine whether a child goes to college or prison, and whether they end up employed or addicted. – Kristin Schubert, Program director, Robert Wood Johnson Foundation.
3) They have high expectations of their kids
According to a research, lead by Professor Neal Halfon, University of California, the expectations that parents have of their kids plays a huge role in their success.
In the study, around 6600 kids were surveyed on their test scores. It was found out that 97% of the kids who did well were expected to go to college by their parents while 57% of the kids who did worst were expected to go the college by their parents.
The result is also in line with Pygmalion effect, which mentions “that what one person expects of another can come to serve as a self-fulfilling prophecy.” So these parents who expects their kids to perform at per their excellence will help foster a successful individual in the future years to come.
4) They belong to a higher socio economic status
According to Sean Reardon, an American researcher from Standard University, “the achievement gap between high and low income families has been getting wider”, “roughly 30 % to 40% larger among children born in 2001 than among those born 25 years earlier.”
It is an unavoidable fact that kids from lower income families often struggle to obtain higher education as their parents are mostly struggling to make their ends meet and don’t have enough funds to invest in their kids education.
As also stated by Dan Pink, in his, motivational best seller “Drive”, “Absent comprehensive and expensive interventions, socioeconomic status is what drives much of educational attainment and performance.”
5) They have higher education levels
According to a study conducted by Green State University in 2009, parents who completed higher education or college were more likely to have children who followed their path.