Parenting is one of the trickiest jobs to take up after conception. Here are common parenting styles and which one to use:
Why do I say it’s a job? Because indeed it is. It takes a mother to consciously decide upon the best way to bring her child up, alongside running household chores and meeting her own work deadlines.
It really is nothing less than rocket science. For people who have not been parents yet, parenting might seem so much aligned with one’s natural potential as a woman to mother a child. But motherhood is a stressful venture. Quite understandably, a working mother finds it more difficult to balance home, self and work The professional workload can add to the postpartum stress and might significantly degrade a mother’s mental and physical health.
One of the hugely overlooked truths of parenting is that parenting involves both parent and their equal contributions make up for a suitable condition that ensures an overall general development of the child. It’s a myth that the mother has a bigger role to play in raising a child. Absence of a father can have drastic effects on the emotional, social and economic well-being of the child. Therefore, both of their involvement is crucial.
The difficult part of parenting is that it does not come with any rules. It is exclusively customized for every child.
The parent’s caregiver intuition also plays a huge role in the efficiency of parenting. How you raise your child determines their future as an individual. You as a parent will make mistakes. But with love, patience and understanding, you can help your child grow into responsible individuals.
There a number of articles, blogs and books providing tricks and tips of effective parenting but in the end you have to make a choice that is best fit according to the needs of your child.
4 different parenting styles researched by child psychologists and counselors:
Four parenting styles or typologies namely Authoritarian, Authoritative, and Permissive parenting were developed by Baumrind (1967, 1971). Each of these has its own benefits and disadvantages. Cultural and generational factors has huge influence on the type of parenting style you choose.
1. Authoritarian Parenting Style
In this type of parenting style, parents show low support, control their children to foster obedience and implement discipline. Parents who follow this type of parenting do not like taking “no” as an answer to requests on their parts.
They set very strictly, no-negotiable rules for their children accompanied with highly negative consequences for failing to follow them. The two main components of this parenting style are low responsiveness and high demandingness.
Salient features of Authoritarian Parenting style:
- Parents make rigid rules and regulations for their children, which are to be followed on all costs.
- Lack of transparency between parents and children.
- The children are faced with harsh criticisms on making absolutely inconsiderable and insignificant mistakes.
- The communication between children and parents is one-way and parents do not consult with their children while making decisions ( Alegre, 2011; Baumrind, 1971; Grolnick & Pomerantz, 2009; Leman, 2005).
- Follows the principle : “Authority figure is all powerful”
- The needs and desires of the children are not considered while making rules.
- Choices of children are of secondary importance and parents make decisions on behalf of their children ( (Fletcher et al., 2004; Steinberg, Elman, & Mounts, 1989).
- If and when children takes stand, they are faced with the saying, “My way or the highway”
- Punitive actions are taken when children fail to keep up to the expectations of their parents. (Timpano et al., 2010; Marsiglia et al.,2007)
- Parents’ and children’s personal boundaries are dissolved.
- Parents often use physical punishment like beating, spanking, thrashing, pulling, pricking, kicking and punching and emotional punishment like neglect, yelling, scolding, silent treatment, stonewalling to discipline their children ( Timpano et al., 2010; Marsiglia et al., 2007)
- Parents monitor child’s behaviour, activities inside and outside the house. (Barber (1996) and Fletcher, Steinberg, and Williams-Wheeler (2004) )