How Children Of Obsessed Parents End Up Feeling Lost and Empty

Obsessed Parents End Up Feeling Lost and Empty

Are you one of those obsessed parents? Have you ever realized your child is feeling lost and empty with your obsessive nature?

There was an interesting article in The Atlantic, entitled “How to Land Your Kid in Therapy: Why the obsession with our kids’ happiness may be dooming them to unhappy adulthood. A therapist and mother reports.

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The article is about the way many parents focus much of their energy on being there for their children, but their children end up feeling lost and empty.

One of the issues I’ve written about extensively is that half of the good parenting is being there for our children, and the other half is being there for ourselves.

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This article says nothing about parents becoming loving role models of personal responsibility for filling their own emptiness.

How Children Of Obsessed Parents End Up Feeling Lost and Empty

In fact, these obsessed parents, who are obsessed with their kids’ happiness, are likely addicted to filling themselves up through their children – not a healthy situation.

This article validates what Inner Bonding is all about – learning how to take responsibility for your own feelings.

The problem with these lost adults is that their parents always took responsibility for them, rather than role-modeling how to fill themselves up.

Feeling lost and empty is the result of a lack of love. As the cartoon drawing shows, these kids received an abundance of love from their parents.

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But they never learned how to fill themselves with love through a personal source of spiritual guidance. They never learned how to access their own higher self to guide them in what is loving to themselves, so they end up feeling lost.

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I was just like these obsessed parents for many of the years that my children were growing up. Because my parents were never emotionally there for me with love, understanding, compassion, and caring, I vowed to give that to my children.

And I did. The problem was that I was not giving it to myself, so I was not teaching my children to give it to themselves. Instead, I was teaching them that someone else was responsible for making them happy.

Fortunately, we created Inner Bonding while my children were adolescents, so they got some of the role-modeling before leaving home.

It was not an easy transition for me or for them, to go from care taking them – taking responsibility for their feelings – to taking responsibility for my feelings. But it was one of the best things I ever did for my children.

Are you at least as focused on being there for your own feelings as you are on being there for your children’s feelings?

If not, are you willing to learn how to take responsibility for your feelings so that your children learn how to take responsibility for theirs?

Truly, this is one of the best gifts you can give to your children.

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Far too many of the people I work with say the exact same thing that is in the cartoon:

“I LOVE my parents. I’ve had a GREAT childhood! I’ve got a GOOD job! So why do I feel so LOST?”

They are very confused about this.

The first thing I ask them is, “How did your parents treat themselves?”

The response might be something like, “My mother put herself aside for my father, taking care of his every need.

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