(6) The adult will have trouble identifying oneself.
When a child is constantly abused, being told repeatedly what to do and what not to, being scolded, looked down upon, the child fails to understand what is there good in them and eventually when it comes to the building of one’s identity, they fail. The uniqueness of a person lies in their identity. How can a child develop a unique identity when their actions and choices are constantly determined by others and judged by others? They lose their creativity and talent and as adults, get lost in the crowd, suffering from identity crisis, confused about themselves.
(7) Growing up as a child who had to hear, ‘you are responsible for this,’ sort of blames, an adult will have the tendency to blame oneself always.
It has always been the same for the adult: getting blamed for each and everything in this world. This type of emotional abuse develops this idea in the person that it is absolutely normal that whatever bad happens, that person will get blamed for it. This has always been the reality; hence, the adult will believe in it, devaluating themselves, feeling bad about themselves, their existence.
(8) An adult tends to be defensive if they end up in an antagonist environment which might incur harm upon them.
Since as a child, the adult has faced so much of abuse, the adult will try to protect themselves. In this act of defending, they might even show negative behaviors because they have seen a lot of negativity in their lives.They know they do not have anyone but themselves to guard them and can go to extremes.
If we do find people expressing such attributes, we should try to understand them and situations which made them like this. Let’s try to help them overcome their childhood trauma.
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