We currently live in a world where teenagers are on their own. Our little children are out there alone not knowing the pain they are going through. Just at a young age, but already fighting depression and suicidal thoughts.
Parentification is a cause of invisible childhood trauma. It occurs when the roles are reversed between a child and a parent, where the child has to step up as the caretaker, mediator, or protector of the family.
As parents, we want to make sure your children never experience any distress. But we’ve got to raise humans that have some tolerance for discomfort and distress. We can’t rescue them from that. We’ve got to teach them how to handle it and deal with it.
Respond to your children with love in their worst moments, their broken moments, their selfish moments, their lonely moments, their frustrating moments, their inconvenient moments, because it is in their most unlovable human moments that they most need to feel loved.