Manifest Due To Childhood Emotional Abuse
Were you emotionally abused as a child?
Childhood is one of the most sensitive phases of our lives. Anything that happens in childhood contributes to shaping our behavior, our choices, and makes us what we are. Be it a criminal or a leader, each and every person will have the past which has played a direct role in developing their personality, their dreams, their outlook towards life.
We cannot undo these abuses but talking about these issues and spreading awareness might help people prevent such actions. We need to understand that children who face emotional abuse still bear those marks as adults which affects their lives along with those of their peers too.
This is detrimental to the development of a healthy society.
Here is a list of things which adults do if they have been emotionally abused as a child.
Let’s understand them:
(1) Screaming, fighting, loud noises become unbearable.
(2) The person has a problem in expressing their opinion.
People with childhood emotional abuse will always take a neutral point of view and try not to debate with others. This is a result of mild cases of a child being prohibited from expressing their opinion to extreme ones like that of a child being scolded severely or beaten up for expressing their opinion which was not in tune with others.
As an adult, this fear syndrome will persist and the adult will not express their own opinion which could have added value to the discussion.
(3) Accepting the fact that one is loved unconditionally is very hard for the adult.
The adult who has been emotionally abused as a child will always remain skeptical of the love because as a child, they have been betrayed and they have always been devalued. Childhood emotional abuse not only has affected their self-confidence but also took away their trust in people.
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(4) The adult will keep on explaining their actions even for the simplest of things.
It arises from situations where the child has to be answerable for each and everything they did.
When the same child grows up, they will live in the fear of being distrusted or scolded, lacking faith in their ability to trust on their own judgments, and will also be unable to take decisions.
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(5) A child who has been abused will be a very shy adult.
Besides childhood emotional abuse, years of ignorance will lead to the belief that nobody wants to listen to them. They will try their best not to open up and will dwell in the belief that they are unwanted. This leads to depression and other mental health issues.
(6) The adult will have trouble identifying oneself.
(7) Growing up as a child who had to hear, ‘you are responsible for this,’ sort of blames, an adult will have the tendency to blame oneself always.
(8) An adult tends to be defensive if they end up in an antagonist environment which might incur harm upon them.
If we do find people expressing such attributes of childhood emotional abuse, we should try to understand them and situations which made them like this. Let’s try to help them overcome their childhood trauma.
Agree! The biggest piece that came from eight years of therapy after enduring all levels of abuse – well, was feeling “human” and less like a ‘thing’ or as low as an ‘animal’. Long long story. You nailed it though – thank you because it helps those who have been abused know what they think or feel or act is “real”.
Really great. Its sad, yet I do my best. Everyone is important.
Abuse is just not right. Counseling is also important.
Helping all people appreciate their self, etc.
Please be confidential.
The article only reveals 6, yet the title stars 8. Where are the other 2?1
Hi Sara! You will find the other 2 points on next page. Thank you. Hope you are safe and well.
Wow, that list was almost 100% accurate. The article talked about physical abuse but made no mention of sexual abuse and when you put all three together it is difficult to see life as something to be enjoyed. I am 73 and my brother, sisters and myself all incurred all three forms of abuse. As a kid I found myself looking for a play to hide because even if I had nothing to do with an incident I still got a beating because I was the oldest and I should have stopped the other kids from doing whatever he deemed an offense that required physical/emotional/
sexual abuse. Thank you for this article. Yes, I did have some counseling, however it was almost 2 years into that I finally told someone what had happened and she was shocked.
Thank you so much Patricia for your comment. I’m glad that you found the post helpful. Hope you are safe and well.
Thank you so much Patricia for your comment. I’m glad that you found the post helpful. Hope you are safe and well.
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