Being in a toxic and unhealthy relationship takes a lot from you, and there have been times when someone has lost herself to a toxic man.
Some days I wonder if I will ever fully be myself again, and unfortunately, those days seem to be happening more than I would like to admit.
Yes, relationships take a lot of work but relationships are supposed to be fun. When you are with the right person, relationships are simple. Nobody deserves to be in a relationship where they are afraid of their partner, yet that is more and more common these days.
I am ashamed to admit that I stayed in a relationship where I was fearful of the man I was with.
All it took was one day, one day where I had enough courage to walk away and walking away was the best decision I have ever made. I had let someone take so much from me, and if I didn’t have the courage to walk away I don’t know where I would be today.
I dated someone who made me lose my self-worth.
I lost my smile that once lit up any room I walked into because he couldn’t stand to see me happy. My smile was a bother to him.
Once he charmed me into falling for his act he knew he had me hooked and he knew he could manipulate me. He knew he had me wrapped around his finger and he knew I wouldn’t leave. Because of him, I couldn’t even look at myself in the mirror anymore because he made me feel lower than I ever knew was possible.
I dated someone who made me lose my self-confidence
Because of him, I lost my self-confidence and my care-free attitude. I was the girl that ‘didn’t deserve to be told compliments because I didn’t need them.’ Because of him, I felt worthless.
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I dated someone I thought I knew.
I spent so much time convincing myself that he was going to go back to the man I had first met that I was completely oblivious to the fact that it was impossible. I so badly wanted to believe that it was all just a phase, but it wasn’t.
I dated someone who I didn’t even know who he was.
The man I first met wasn’t him; it was who he wanted to be perceived as. He turned out to be nothing but a liar and a cheater. I constantly made excuses for him and disregarded his wrongs.
I wanted him to so badly be the man he pretended to be that I became blind. And because of this, I made our relationship picture perfect on Instagram. I thought if I made it look perfect then it would be perfect.
Because of him, I lied to everyone that asked me how we were. I lied because I thought if I lied about it enough, it would become the truth. I deliberately chose to ignore all the signs because all I wanted to do was see the best in him.
I dated someone who made me question everyone.
Because of him, I realized that maybe some people just don’t have any good in themselves. Because of him, I stopped being the person who saw the best in everyone. The person who gave everyone the benefit of the doubt.
I dated someone who was incapable of loving anyone but themselves.
I thought if I just brushed everything aside and loved him with everything in me, then it would make him love me back. It took forever to understand, but I now understand that it is impossible to make someone love you who only knows how to love themselves.
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Oh, so I see you know my ex! 🙂 Like you, the best thing I ever did for myself was walk away. It was incredibly hard (emotionally, financially etc) but I knew that if I didn’t do it, I was going to lose myself for good. I took up yoga and mediation, threw myself in self-help and quantum healing and a year later, I have re-learned how awesome I really am. I look back and am really grateful that I went through the hard times with him because I am a stronger woman and better soul than I could ever imagined before. My whole world is now full of possibilities and I am free. Meanwhile the ex is still stuck in the same repeat cycles of misery. Thanks for sharing!
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In my case HE walked away, the best thing he ever did, cos that’s when my sanity returned and I was able to objectively see my situation. But it leaves me with a lot of anger towards myself for not having had the strength to have stood up for myself.
Michelle Huggins
You know me so well X twins X
This is the sad truth but in the end it’s what makes us stronger 🙂
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Took 30 years of physical and mental abuse to walk away – I waled away to a wonderful new life
Beautifully written, and so true.
Helen Dawn xxx
Xxxxx love you
Kelly Ann Smith so true for us both! xx
Well written. So true.
Hallelujah… Glad I left
It’s a hard hit…. But v true…. V well written
Oh look at that exactly how my ex gf made me feel plus trying her best to turn me paranoid.
Sounds like she was gaslighting you. She will do it to the next, and the next, her family, her friends, her coworkers.
Yep was very good at manipulation and avoiding issues once she started the fekking issue.
Victoria Barr