Just because you’re thinking something, doesn’t make it true. There are many thinking errors we make unknowingly and it is important to recognise and combat them.
“Our mind is like the engine of a car. If the engine isn’t operating at its best, it doesn’t matter how good the car looks, it’s not going to function at its best. That’s why even the nicest cars need a service from time to time.”
Because, what we think about, does dictate how we feel.
It’s easy for me to say that now.
I’m happy now.
But in 2008 I wasn’t.
I was depressed.
A constant sense of anxiety consumed me.
Everything felt harder.
I called my Mum everyday and cried.
But I felt so lost and didn’t know what else to do.
If you’re anything like me, from time to time you will have found yourself lost in the vicious cycle of negative thinking and feeling as though your mind is in a world of fog. In these moments, we feel as though there is no escape, and that we will never be able to experience peace, joy, or beauty in the world.
I used to feel like that.
But not anymore.
I feel great now.
I didn’t realise it at the time, but the thoughts I was having were dictating how I was feeling. But they were thoughts that could be changed through challenging them.
Over time, I just had to learn how to spot the thinking errors I was making, and then figure out how to challenge them.
Maybe you do to?
Here’re 10 common thinking errors:
1. Mind Reading
Assuming you know that other people are having negative thoughts about you. With a desire to please others, mind reading can create a negative emotional response within us, as we feel we need to protect ourselves from the negativity we believe is being directed at us.
2. Should Statements
From time to time we catch ourselves believing that things should be a certain way. This can be a great trigger of stress and anxiety if the reality of a situation doesn’t match up to how we between it should be.
3. Catastrophic Thinking:
We predict the worst-case scenario. When we are fully engaged in this form of thinking, we think that disaster or tragedy will strike if we go ahead with our plan. E.g. “I can’t swim in the ocean because there was a shark attack earlier this year. If I go in the water I will get attacked by a shark”.
4. Black & White Thinking
You are operating in extremes here. This form of thinking will have you believe that you’re either a success or a failure, you’re good or bad, great husband or terrible husband. It discounts all the shades of grey that come between the extreme black and white.
In reality, sometimes you’re a better husband, friend, wife, colleague than other times. One experience doesn’t make you all or nothing of one thing or another.
We all filter events in our lives in a way that suits the way we already see the world. Have you ever tried to tell someone something, but regardless of how hard you try they won’t listen?
They have already decided how they’ve filtered the information on the subject you’re speaking about. We do it as well. We can choose how to interpret events. Just because you see it as negative, doesn’t make it true.
We may have only one or two negative experiences that make us assume that ‘this always happens to me’. You’ll realize you’re overgeneralizing if you catch yourself interpreting your experience with words like always, never and everybody, you’re engaged in overgeneralizing.