“Perceptive people are always more successful in life and in work,” says Loren Miner, COO of the recruitment firm Decision Toolbox. “Top performers aren’t always the smartest people; they’re the ones who connect with others and have a higher E.Q. (Emotional Quotient)”
Telepathy feels like a superpower to most of us. While.in actuality it is as organic as being perceptive about varied stimuli around us. We human beings are all wired with the cognitive potential to sense things around us and process its meanings. We are constantly sending cosmic signals through our thought process. Our thought processes are our bio energy. Whenever we exchange ideas and try to understand the perspectives of another individual, we engage in reading them to some extent.
According to Hodges and Myers (1) in the Encyclopedia of Social Psychology, “Empathy is often defined as understanding another person’s experience by imagining oneself in that other person’s situation: One understands the other person’s experience as if it were being experienced by the self, but without the self actually experiencing it. A distinction is maintained between self and other.”
What we actually believe to be some kind of a witchcraft implemented by control freaks can be simply put as ‘empathic accuracy’ in Psychological term. Empathetic accuracy is how accurately one can infer the thoughts and feelings of another person. It was first introduced by William Ickes and William Tooke in 1988 (2) alongside the term ‘empathic inference.’
Being able to read mind doesn’t mean you will use manipulative techniques to your advantage once you know what other people are thinking. In fact, if we focus and look at it’s brighter side, reading the mind of someone else can allow you to help understand their perspective and to connect to them on deeper levels.
Here are 6 simple ways to efficiently read the mind of a person:
1) BODY LANGUAGE
Communication in any context is an amalgamation of both verbal and non-verbal modes. Body language is a mode of non-verbal communication in which physical behavior is used to express and convey information. Such behavior includes eye movement, facial expressions, gestures, body postures, vocal tonality and facial expressions.
Body language is another clear signal of what someone is thinking. As our verbal and non-verbal, both ways of expressions, are a result of our thoughts, therefore it’s understandable that one’s body language is directly connected to what the person might be feeling or thinking. As body language is hard to manipulate voluntarily, it’s a fool proof reflection of one’s thoughts.
Facial expression is an integral tool in expressing emotions through the body. For example, a lack of crinkles around the eyes suggests a potentially fake smile. When one is genuinely delighted, one’s smile will reach the eye and they will crinkle.
Similarly, postures also help us infer what a person might be feeling inside. A person on their chair, leans forward with their head nodding along with the discussion implies that they are open, relaxed and genuinely interested in listening. On the other hand, a person who has their legs and arms crossed with the foot kicking slightly implies that they are feeling impatient and emotionally detached from the discussion.(3)
2) OBSERVE THEIR BEHAVIOR
On the other hand if the breathing is short, excessively rapid and shallow, it usually coveys a more nervous and anxious impression. The disposition of such a person can either be very shy or he/she might be uncomfortable in sharing any information about him/her.
3) READ THEIR EYES
Eyes are windows to the soul; quite literally. What do we see when we look into one’s eyes? – The truth. The eyes are often the giveaway.
Besides, the body language of the eye has several implications. For instance, a research approved that, the person has no control over of his pupils, and the pupils expanded when someone interested in the other person, or looking at something.(4)
When a person looks upwards they are often deeply thinking about something that they want to recall. In particular they are probably making pictures in their head and thus may well be an indicator of a visual thinker.
Avoiding eye contact usually portrays a lack of confidence, certainty, or truthfulness.
Looking at someone directly in the eye indicates confidence and assertion. Direct or prolonged eye contact means that you are challenging the individual with whom you are speaking or that you have a romantic interest in the person.
On the other hand, looking down involves not looking at the other person, which hence may be a sign of submission.
Looking down and to the left can indicate that they are mentally talking to themselves (look for slight movement of the lips). Looking down and to the right can indicate that they are attending to internal emotions.