Every man is different and so are the qualities of those men. There are many attributes that can define a man in their professional and personal life and those attributes differ while women’s perspective of the quality in a man is in question. But there is one best quality of a man that actually matters for all men out there. Ladies if you’ve found that one person with this quality, don’t let him go.
The reason why so many women struggle to get the relationship they want is that they go after guys who are simply incapable of ever giving it to them. Have you ever wondered about the only quality that matters in a man?
We get swept up in the wrong things (the damage cases who are just oh so swoon-worthy), and lose sight of what actually matters, of the things that actually determine whether a relationship will last.
We tell ourselves all sorts of lies in order to hang onto something we know isn’t right for us but can’t seem to let go of, because being alone seems like a worse fate.
There are several universal qualities, a life partner should have, but for this article, I want to just focus on one quality that matters in a man.
I remember the exact moment I knew my husband was the one. After about a month of everything being perfect (as they usually are in the beginning), we hit our first conflict. It was nothing major; we just started seeing areas where our personalities clashed and how we process things differently.
I tend to be more intellectual and direct and he’s more emotional and his thoughts can be all over the place. I would get impatient by it, and my impatience was hurtful to him. The details don’t really matter, what matters is I remember the way he brought the issue up and how sincere he was in wanting to work through things in order to get to a better place of understanding.
It was a shock to my system, I had never experienced such a thing. In the past, I had always either been easily discarded or got the message that I needed to change and if I didn’t, he would leave.
I have seen countless variations of this kind of scenario: girl is dating guy, things are going great (again, as they often do in the beginning), but then they hit that inevitable point of conflict — maybe she acts needy or maybe he gets distant but suddenly things aren’t as seamless as they were the week before.
Then he decides he can’t hang anymore and tells her he “doesn’t have time for a relationship” or he can’t give her what she needs. The girl racks her brain trying to figure out what she did wrong and what she could have done differently. And then the classic question that has been asked by so many women before: He was so into me at first, what happened?
She thinks if she hadn’t been so needy if she had been a little more chilled out if she didn’t do this and instead did that. Really, the only way things would have turned out differently is if she behaved perfectly according to his script if she never disagreed with him or expressed unhappiness if she was perfectly in alignment with his thoughts and what he wants in a partner.
That sounds reasonable, right? (That’s sarcasm in case it didn’t come across!)
If a guy leaves when things get a little rocky, it means he is lacking in the most important quality that you need in a partner and that is a –
Man who is committed not only to you, but to making it work.
It’s easy to be in a relationship when everything is all sunshine and roses. The truth comes out after time goes on … when you let your guards down … when you can be more of yourself instead of the absolute best, most behaved, and restrained version of yourself.
Even the best couples don’t seamlessly fit together. There is always a certain degree of work involved in order to create that deep and meaningful connection and it has to come from both people.