Are you dating someone? Then this post is your savior! Here are three common ways men test women while dating that reveal a few key factors about you and how they will then ultimately see you and treat you.
Does it seem like the man you’re dating is testing you or pushing you to your limit on purpose? Does he seem sweet and attentive one minute and perhaps a little insensitive the next? Or have you met a man who seems to say things to you to just see how you react to perhaps ruffle your feathers?
Or maybe he’s obsessed about something in his life that he just loves to talk about like the upcoming video game he can’t wait to get or the difference between two Yamaha guitar models when they all sound the same to you.
TODAY, I’M GOING TO LET YOU IN ON A LITTLE SECRET THAT REVEALS HOW MEN THINK WHEN THEY’RE LOOKING FOR LOVE.
This means if you feel like he’s testing you, then you’re probably right.
Men test women
And in a moment, I’m going to reveal the three ways men test women and why that may surprise you.
I’m Nadine Piat, a dating and lasting attraction coach for smart, savvy women and the founder of Healthy You Healthy Love.
I’m also the creator of four world-leading love and relationship programs including Unlock His Heart and Never Lose Him. If you haven’t heard of me, then this is the place to be as I answer all of your unanswered questions about understanding men, wholehearted commitment, and lasting attraction.
If you’re wondering how to win a man over in the early stages of dating when he’s weighing up whether you’re a wife material or just a casual relationship, then you need to know the things men test women for and why.
EVERY WOMAN NEEDS TO KNOW WHAT MEN TEST WOMEN FOR IF THEY WANT TO FEEL EMPOWERED WHEN DATING.
Before we go into this, I want to share something critical. I think the dating world is ready for a movement.
Men are still struggling with understanding and expressing their feelings, deeper fears, and insecurities with the key people in their life which usually impacts intimacy and their ability to grow and connect with women.
Too many women— time and time again— go against themselves in a myriad of ways when it comes to dating and long-term relationships.
This creates much of the drama, pain, and confusion that women experience that they would NOT endure if they were more empowered and more trusting of themselves when it comes to their romantic life.
TO CLARIFY, THIS IS NOT A DEBATE ABOUT WHETHER WOMEN NEED TO CHANGE MORE THAN MEN, AND I’M NOT SUGGESTING FOR ONE MOMENT THAT WOMEN ARE AT FAULT OR THAT MEN ARE.
I’m saying that not living by your core values due to perhaps a scarcity mindset or the fear of missing out, fear of being rejected, fear of never being loved is blocking the love you want.
Instead of moving towards what you truly want, you find yourself going round and round in often painful circles which means— as much as I’d like the landscape of dating and relationships to be a more mindful, joyful, and loving experience— the reality is society still has a long way to go.
And this is why a man in the early stages of dating will test you while he’s trying to work out what he wants and who you are. Whether he’s doing this consciously or not, testing is bound to be at play.
Unfortunately, many women’s fears plus dating fatigue and frustration can see them reacting to a man’s tests.
Do I believe that men should test women while dating?
The truth is, women test men too and men are also failing these tests left, right, and center.
If you want to pass a man’s test with flying colors, then you need a few wildcards up your sleeve to help you. I’ll reveal what these are soon.
Here are three common ways men test women while dating that reveal a few key factors about you and how they will then ultimately see you and treat you.
1. THE INDEPENDENCE TEST.
Men decide to be independent to some extent and he’s looking for a woman who will support this.
When he talks about his hobbies or interests, he’s not expecting you to be magically interested in the wonderful world of Australian football, able to discuss the nuances of indie rock or hunker down for hours playing an RPG with him.