Why are relationships so hard today? Why do we fail at love every time, despite trying so hard? Why have humans suddenly become so inept at making relationships last? Have we forgotten how to love? Or worse, forgotten what love is?\r\n\r\n1.\u00a0 \u00a0We\u2019re not prepared. We\u2019re not prepared for the sacrifices, for the compromises, for the unconditional love. We\u2019re not ready to invest all that it takes to make a relationship work. We want everything easy. We\u2019re quitters. All it takes is a single hurdle to make us crumble to our feet. We don\u2019t let our love grow, we let go before time.\r\n\r\n2.\u00a0 It\u2019s not love we\u2019re looking for, only excitement and thrill in life. We want someone to watch movies and party with, not someone who understands us even in our deepest silences. We spend time together, we don\u2019t make memories. We don\u2019t want the boring life. We don\u2019t want a partner for life, just someone who can make us feel alive right now, this very instant. When the excitement fades, we discover nobody ever prepared us for the mundane. We don\u2019t believe in the beauty of predictability because we\u2019re too blinded by the thrill of adventure.\r\n\r\n3.\u00a0 We immerse ourselves in the inconsequentials of the city life, leaving no space for love. We don\u2019t have time to love, we don\u2019t have the patience to deal with relationships. We\u2019re busy people chasing materialistic dreams and there\u2019s no scope to love. Relationships are nothing more than convenience.\u00a0\r\n\r\n4.\u00a0 We look for instant gratification in everything we do \u2013 the things we post online, the careers we choose, and the people we fall in love with. We want the maturity in a relationship that comes with time, the emotional connect that develops over years, that sense of belonging when we barely even know the other person. Apparently, nothing\u2019s worth our time and patience \u2013 not even love.\r\n\r\n5.\u00a0 We\u2019d rather spend an hour each with a hundred people than spending a day with one. We believe in having \u2018options\u2019. We\u2019re \u2018social\u2019 people. We believe more in meeting people than getting to know them. We\u2019re greedy. We want to have everything. We get into relationships at the slightest attraction and step out, the moment we find someone better. We don\u2019t want to bring out the best in that one person. We want them to be perfect. We date a lot of people but rarely give any of them a real chance. We\u2019re disappointed in everyone.\r\n\r\n6.\u00a0 Technology has brought us closer, so close that it\u2019s impossible to breathe. Our physical presence has been replaced by texts, voice messages, snapchats and video calls. We don\u2019t feel the need to spend time together anymore. We have too much of each other already. There\u2019s nothing left to talk about.\r\n\r\n7.\u00a0 We\u2019re a generation of \u2018wanderers\u2019 who wouldn\u2019t stay at one place for too long. Everyone is commitment phobic. We believe we\u2019re not meant for relationships. We don\u2019t want to settle down. Even the thought of it is scary. We cannot imagine being with one person for the rest of our lives. We walk away. We despise permanence like its some social evil. We like to believe we\u2019re \u2018different\u2019 than the rest. We like to believe we don\u2019t conform to social norms.\r\n\r\n8.\u00a0 We\u2019re a generation that calls itself \u2018sexually liberated\u2019. We can tell sex apart from love, or so we think. We\u2019re the hook-up-break-up generation. We have sex first and then decide if we want to love someone. sex comes easy, loyalty doesn\u2019t. Getting laid has become the new getting drunk. You do it not because you love the other person, but because you want to feel good. It\u2019s all the temporary fulfillment we need. sex outside relationships isn\u2019t a taboo anymore. Relationships aren\u2019t that simple anymore. There are open relationships, friends with benefits, causal flings, one-night stands, no strings attached \u2013 we\u2019ve left very little exclusivity for love in our lives.\r\n\r\n9.\u00a0 We\u2019re the practical generation who runs by logic alone. We don\u2019t know how to love madly anymore. We wouldn\u2019t take a flight to a far-off land just to see someone we love. We\u2019d break up because, long distance. We\u2019re too sensible for love. Too sensible for our own good.\r\n\r\n10.\u00a0 We\u2019re a scared generation \u2013 scared to fall in love, scared to commit, scared to fall, scared to get hurt, scared to get our hearts broken. We don\u2019t allow anyone in, nor do we step out and love anyone unconditionally. We lurk from behind walls we\u2019ve created ourselves, looking for love and running away the moment we really find it. We suddenly \u2018cannot handle it\u2019. We don\u2019t want to be vulnerable. We don\u2019t want to bare our soul to anyone. We\u2019re too guarded.\r\n\r\n11. We don\u2019t even value relationships anymore. We let go of the most wonderful people for \u2018the other fishes in the sea.\u2019 We don\u2019t consider them sacred anymore.\r\nThere\u2019s nothing we couldn\u2019t conquer in this world, and yet, here we are ham-fisted at the game of love \u2013 the most basic of human instincts. Evolution, they call it.