How Modern Dating Is Killing Real Love

In This Modern Dating World, I Don’t Believe In Love Anymore

There are no shortcuts when it comes to finding true love.

If you want to experience true love in your life, you will have to wait for it patiently, because love knocks on your door when you least expect it. When it ultimately does, you will have to nurture it with a lot of time, care and patience.

However, when it comes to modern dating, people are busy swiping left and right on dating apps, hoping to find “the one”. That never works, most of the time.

In this modern dating culture, I don’t understand what love is anymore.

Maybe, love is as easy as swapping your screen to the right or left and going on a date with someone you’ve matched on Tinder. Sometimes love is about having the first chemistry of a person based on their profile pictures, their followers, and the things they’ve posted on social media. Other times, love is about stalking their profile just to figure out who they truly are, even before your first date. Love is about guessing his or her personality by seeing those mutual friends that you had in common.

“Sadly, we’ve become a generation content with being in love with a love that isn’t real.” — R.H. Sin

Love is waiting for your phone to ring and wondering when you will receive his text messages. It’s about questioning why they haven’t seen your Instagram story or liked your latest selfie. Love is about reading their text messages immediately, but you’ll take another hour to reply, just to make them understand that you’re hard to get. It’s about making them wonder whether you’re into them or vice versa by guessing how long you respond to their texts.

Love is about guessing feelings by their latest status updates and tweets.

If you are in a relationship, maybe love is about trying to find the right angle of you and your boyfriend for the picture that you’ll post with #relationshipgoals as the caption. Love is about saving money for your next travel journey with your girlfriend to use as content for your Instagram feed. It’s about doing each of the activity in your bucket list with your partner to make your vlog on YouTube is more interesting than the previous ones. Love is about sharing your Saturday night with him through a series of Instagram stories.

Maybe, love is about Netflix and chill or it’s about reading countless self-help articles about the signs whether he’s still into you. Love is about changing your relationship status on Facebook. Love is about having a garden-party themed the wedding where everyone could take some Instagrammable pictures to be posted on their social media.

In this modern dating culture, love is about having a ‘screen-connection’, not the real connection.

When we talk about love in this modern dating world, it’s no longer about one’s deep feelings of affection towards someone. In this digital era, love is about being fast. In this day and age, it’s about being fast to get their texts, to pick up their calls, to get acknowledgment from the world that you’ve found the one.

“We live in a world where people are afraid to feel anything genuine, or at the very least, are afraid to show it.”Melissa Moeller

Love is no longer a private and intimate feeling, but it’s about having the urgency to show it off to the world.

In this modern dating world, the true meaning of love is fading away. We start to forget that love is about building a true and deep connection with someone through face-to-face interaction. It’s about having a non-stop deep conversation while you’re having a dinner date with him or her without even wanting to check your phone. Love is about understanding each other’s feelings through direct body language without over-analyzing those text messages that she/he sent.

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