Imagine if you could tell whether or not someone was right for you …just by watching their expressions? It seems impossible, yet so ideal. All the time we could save , not to mention all the heartache. Well it’s time to meet the man who can teach you how to do just that.
His name is Stevens. Alan Stevens . And he is a celebrity profiler.
Which means he has been trained to be able to read someone’s personality just by their facial expressions. Impressive huh?!
“He has been described as The mentalist meets Dr Phil meets Cal Lightman from “Lie to me”
And we got to do a little interview with him and found out some pretty cool tips on how to use those skills for when we date.
Q 1: What is a facial profiler?
Most Face Profilers read either Facial Features or just Facial Expressions. Whereas I read both, as well as Body Language, and Neuro Linguistic Programming rounds it all off.
Rapid Trait Profiling (Facial Features) tell you a person’s personality. How they like to take in and process information, how they like to act and how they are likely to behave in any situation, especially when under stress.
Micro expressions are flashes of expressions lasting a minute moment in time, when read in context with an event or when something is said or happens. They tell you what a person is really felling. They tell you if someone is trying to conceal information and when they are lying. When coupled with reading Body Language they are extremely effective and, through observing a person’s behaviour, you can quickly determine their character.
Q 2: Is it something we can all easily learn to do? (to help us discern whom to trust our heart to)
Everyone can learn to read facial expressions except for particular groups such as those people with Autism, which I’ll come back to in a moment. For the rest of us, we all had the skill to read expressions the moment our eyes opened as young babies.
Think of every time adults smile at a baby, it smiles back. Even beyond that, a baby detects the slightest change in those expression. They know when the expression is true or just put on. As we get older, caught up in all of the other activities of life, we forget the skill to varying degrees.
When we don’t practice something it atrophies, but like any skill like riding a bike, it can be remembered. As a coach and mentor, that’s what I do for my clients, help them to remember what they knew as young children.
Those with Autism find it more and more difficult to read expressions as a person’s expressions move more towards subtle expressions like Micro Expression.
When it comes to reading Facial Features it’s a totally different matter. Reading facial features is based on dimensions. For instance, when determining if a person has a wide or narrow face, it’s just straight basic maths; what percentage of the width compared to the height of the face. If you can distinguish different shapes, then reading facial features is simple.
So my general answer to this question is, Yes, just about anyone can be taught to read faces.
Q 3: When choosing a date based off their online profile photo, what should we be looking out for in regards to their photos?
Their photo will tell you their emotional state at the precise moment the photo was taken. But you need to remember that the photo doesn’t tell you their general state of mind. They may just may not like having their photo taken for many different and valid reasons.
What you should be looking for is how are they posed in the photo? Who else is there? What are they doing? Is there more than 1 photo and what’s the theme enclosed in each of them.
And more than anything else, does what they have written about themselves match what their photo conveys? For a long time, I’ve been training people to look at social media photos to know the personalities of other people; how they take in and process information, how they like to be spoken to and how they are likely to behave in any given situation.