A fuckboy. Someone who preys on people that he knows is going to fall for him, and then dumps them immediately as soon as he gets enough of them or finds someone better.
A fuckboy will say all the good words written in the book just to catch your attention. But little did you know, it has been rehearsed and said a million other times — no wonder he’s already hustler about it.
He will do everything for you (in the beginning). He will bring you the places you’ve never been, and make you feel really special. He will promise you a life with him. He will sweet talk you under the premise that he can’t wake up another day without you in it; that you are his number one priority; that you are his forever person.
And all these make-you-feel-soooo-great words that are too good to be true.
Eventually, you can’t help but think, “Damn! What did I do to deserve a guy like this? Where have you been all along?”
That’s when a fuckboy is certain that he has done a good job. That’s when the smirk in his lips starts to form. That’s when he knows he executed stage 1 so effectively.
You’ve given your big ‘YES’ to him and he celebrated as if getting yes from people is the only thing that he can be proud of.
Because that’s how sick a fuckboy is. He wants to manipulate people into believing in him, trusting him, and giving him a space in your life. A fuckboy’s life goal is to make you happy first so he can make himself happier after that. So he can prove to himself that he can get whatever he wants just by charming people.
Then of course his behavior starts to change, you noticed. He keeps being aggressive with what he wants to get from you. Every kiss you make with him feels possessive, and every sexual topic he casually brings up in a conversation seems inappropriate and sort of disrespectful. You don’t want to admit the thought that maybe the relationship is going to be based on sex solely. You make yourself believe that he is still the romantic guy you used to know.
But alas, fuckboy will always be a fuckboy — there’s no changing him. He only likes to play games and have sex.
You felt heartbroken, cheated, and manipulated by someone who falls under the definition of a fuckboy. You wasted your time looking for a wrong person. You entertained a guy who only has short-term vision for the future; a guy who looks at you as only ‘good for the moment’; a guy who in a twisted way considers people as disposable goods. You blamed yourself for ignoring that little warning inside of you to not take the risk with him.
But you know what they say: “We make mistakes once in a while.” Nobody wants to be manipulated, nobody wants to be toyed, and nobody wants to have their hearts be jaded.
We learn our lessons in the most painful way sometimes. Sure we fall in love with a wrong person, we make ourselves fools in the name of love, and we lose sight of the direction we set for ourselves before entering a relationship.
Because we want to experience living a life with someone special to share it with. And maybe because we’ve been lonely for way too long that we take the chance of jumping a boat with a guy like him. Even if there’s a possibility that we are going to be manipulated; even if that guy turns out to be a fuckboy.
In the end, a fuckboy helps us grow.
A fuckboy allows us to realize the kind of guy we deserve to have in our lives.
A fuckboy is someone we used to know, but no longer has a place in our hearts.
So maybe it wasn’t really a bad fuckboy experience after all.
Maybe by getting our hearts shattered by a fuckboy we know our worth, and the standards that we need to set for our future relationships.
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