8 Signs Of A True Soul Friend

Do you have a friend who always makes sure that you are happy, content, protected, and supported? Well, then you are lucky to have a soul friend!

A true friend is one soul in two bodies. – Aristotle

What do you define as a “friend”?

Take a moment to think about your answer.

Once upon a time, people described true friendship as a connection between two fiercely loyal people who would give their lives for each other’s well-being.

A true friend used to be thought of as a person who would stick with us through thick and thin; an alter-ego of sorts who we could confide in about anything and everything, and trust completely.

These days the meaning of friendship has been somewhat diminished as we assign our drinking buddies, neighbors, colleagues, and acquaintances with the “friendship” status (don’t get me wrong, some of these people can be true friends, but usually not).

We even reward the strangers and distant associates on our social networking account “friend lists” with the devalued title, as though the word “friend” is nothing more than a worthless, futile word that can be tossed around and pinned onto anyone with a face.

While it is great that we are open enough to assign anyone in our lives as “friends,” our ignorance of what a true friend is and what being a true friend means contributes to a great sense of isolation and loneliness in our lives.

We have even turned “friend” into doublespeak with the modern world “for enemy” being used as a way of describing people who you are friendly with (like with a friend) but secretly dislike (like with an enemy).

More than ever the importance of making and learning how to be a true soul friend is a vital part of life satisfaction in our increasingly disconnected society. I hope to explore this a bit more with you today.

Finding And Being A True Soul Friend

Sociologist and psychologist Lillian Rubin conducted an intriguing study that was published in her book, “Just Friends: The Role of Friendship in Our Lives” back in the 1980s which was created to discover whether people reciprocally identified each other as “best friends,” or not.

In this study, 132 people were asked to write down the name of one person within the group who they identified as their best friend.

To Rubin’s surprise, 84 out of the 132 respondents didn’t mention the person who originally submitted their name as their best friend. Only 18 out of the 132 respondents mutually identified each other as best friends.

Related: 10 Signs You Have Found A Soul Mate In A Friend

What implications does this study have on our lives?

The reality is that our perceptions of “friendship” have weakened so much that most of us – as revealed by this study – struggle to even identify our mutual close friends.

To me friendship is one of the most pure forms of love among humans because it (rarely) receives any form of sexual or monetary gratification/compensation; just the joy of connecting deeply with another.

Perhaps this is why we love and worship our pets so much?

They often provide the only form of true soul friendship we can find immediately in our lives. The love of a pet is unconditional love.

Can you say the same for yourself or for others?

Asking myself this question often makes me stop dead in my tracks as I come to face all of the conditions that I tend to impose on others that stymies a true soul friendship. And honestly while this shocks and deeply grieves me, I see it as an opportunity to grow – and I hope you can grow with me as well.

Fortunately, I have found a couple of true soul friends in my own life which have taught me a lot about the meaning of unconditional love.

This is what I have learned:

1. You can talk with a soul friend about anything.

There is no need to hide any topic away or “walk on eggshells” when talking with a soul friend. Although they might have their own contrary opinions, you can nevertheless feel a refreshing sense of liberty and openness when talking with them.

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22 thoughts on “8 Signs Of A True Soul Friend”

  1. Derrick Fahnestock

    Thanks for the interesting story I have had three friends walk on top of me take advantage of me I found out they were not true

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