Do you feel happy, motivated and energized spending time with your friends and colleagues? If your answer is no, then it’s time to rethink and invest in the right relationships.
“Your network is your net worth.” ― Tim Sanders
The Layers of Social Network
Valuing relationships, I always invest time in further deepening my existing connections.
To expand my network, I’m constantly meeting new people.
In addition, I’m always evaluating my current relationships and filter in the “right” people – those who believe in me and lift me higher. In the process, I weed out the “wrong” people – others who drain my energy and bring me down.
As a result, I will have created relationships by design, not by default. I am determined to invest in right relationships to explode my happiness.
Here are the three layers of my social circle.
- They include my family members (parents, brothers, etc.).
- These are people who I’m born with. I do not have a choice in picking who they are. But fortunately, I have learned to love them, no matter how stubborn and annoying they can be at times.
- My significant other and close friends belong in this group.
- Although I treat them like family, they are here because I can consciously select these people.
- This last layer includes my mentors, friends, clients, and colleagues.
- On average, I see these people about once a week.
Because everyone in my three layers of social circle plays a huge part in my life. I intentionally choose who these people are.
Selecting the “Right” People
To decide if they are “right” for you, here are some questions to ask yourself:
- “Am I excited to be with this person?”
- “Does this individual add to my life?”
- “Is this person genuinely nice to me?”
If you’ve answered “no” to any of the above questions, it’s time to examine your relationship with them.
You deserve to be treated with kindness and respect. Don’t waste time with those don’t reciprocate your generosity.
By not spending time with the “wrong” people, you’ll have more to spend with the “right” people. In addition, you can use that extra time to focus on yourself. You can invest in your personal growth and engage in your favorite hobbies.
When you choose to be with people who lift you up, you automatically filter out those who drag you down.
Nourish Your Existing Connections
After selecting those who lift me up, I dedicate time to strengthen those relationships.
To deepen my current connections, I spend quality time with them. Activities include:
- Rock climbing
- Or simply meeting up and having meaningful conversations.
To show those who are especially important to me, I pay them a gratitude visit. This involves reading a handwritten letter to them in person. As a result, they feel extremely appreciated and loved.
Although you can add value to others through electronic communication, however, the most powerful way to bolster any relationship is through face-to-face interactions.
Because we are social creatures, we are hardwired to connect with others.
We can only truly do that in person.