Have you ever met someone and felt instantly connected to them? Emotional attraction can often make us drawn to certain individuals without being physically attracted to them. Understanding the signs of emotional attraction can help you develop chemistry & build a deep relationship.
What is the emotional attraction?
Have you ever felt that you know someone for a long time even when you met them the first time? That special kind of feeling is emotional attraction.
When you feel attracted to someone’s soul instead of their physical body, you become emotionally attracted to them. Their mind and spirit draw you towards them and you feel an undeniably strong chemistry. Emotional attraction often leads to deep meaningful relationships that can be both romantic and non-romantic.
Emotional attraction is “being captivated by someone’s heart, mind, or humor instead of their physical appeal,” explain authors Cindy Lamothe and Janet Brito, Ph.D., LCSW, CST on a post in Healthline. It is different from physical attraction as it is a “deeper type of attraction” that makes you feel closely connected to someone for a long time.
Social/Personality Psychology experts Jeremy Nicholson M.S.W., Ph.D. explains that emotional or psychological attractiveness is “an important influence in relationships, especially long-term ones.” He adds “These features are more motivating for longer-term and emotionally intimate connections.”
Identifying the signs of emotional attraction can enable you to develop a more intimate and much deeper bond in your romantic relationship as well. Although physical attraction is important, emotional attraction leads to meaningful and lasting relationships. It is an undetectable force that connects your souls together.
Relationship expert Amica Graber explains “Emotional attraction is a spirit of kinship. You spend time together, you can have conversations all night long, you find yourself engaging in funny text banter all day.” she adds “When you’re in a relationship just based on physical attraction, you may feel unsure as to how they really feel beyond the bedroom. Emotional attraction feels a lot more like friendship, with a little extra electricity.”
Signs of emotional attraction
So how can you know if you are emotionally attracted to someone? Most of the time, you will just know if you are drawn to someone for their intellect, their spirit and their dreams, while at other times it may be a little more difficult to spot the signs of emotional attraction.
Here are some questions you need to ask yourself to identify the signs of emotional attraction:
1. Do you give your undivided attention to them?
If you are fully present and aware when you are with them, then it’s one of the signs of emotional attraction. When we have an emotional connection with someone, we are not distracted by anything, like our phones, and offer them our undivided attention.
Licensed counselor Julie Williamson explains Being present and fully attuned to what the person you’re interested in is saying can communicate genuine care and interest.
2. Do you feel emotionally compatible?
Do you share certain personal values and beliefs? When you share the same views about life, lifestyle and life goals with the person you’re emotionally attracted to, your relationship will become deeper. Feeling that you are emotionally compatible will make you feel more connected to them.
3. Do you make frequent eye contact?
It may seem something unimportant, but making meaningful eye contact frequently means you share a special emotional connection with a person. When you look at their eyes while talking, it means you are interested in them.
Life Coach & Relationship Expert says “When you relate to the other person with genuine empathy and positive regard, an emotional connection can be made.” And that often starts with a simple yet meaningful eye contact.