10 Signs it’s Time to Let Go Of Someone

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Holding on is being brave, but letting go of someone and moving on is often what makes us stronger and happier. And the reason why we can’t let go of someone is because deep inside we still hope. Are you finding it difficult to let go even when someone inflicted you with stabbing pain?

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10 Signs it’s Time to Let Go Of Someone

1. Someone expects you to be someone you’re not.

Don’t change who you are for anyone else.  It’s wiser to lose someone over being who you are than to keep them by being someone you’re not.  Because it’s easier to mend a broken heart than it is to piece together a shattered identity.  It’s easier to fill an empty space in your life where someone else used to be than it is to fill the space inside yourself where YOU used to be.

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2. A person’s actions don’t match their words.

Everybody deserves somebody who helps them look forward to tomorrow.  If someone has the opposite effect on you, because they are consistently inconsistent and their actions don’t match up with their words, it’s time to let them go.  It’s always better to be alone than to be in bad company.  True friendship is a promise made in the heart – silent, unwritten, unbreakable by distance, and unchangeable by time.  Don’t listen to what people say; watch what they do.  Your true friends will slowly reveal themselves over time.

3. You catch yourself forcing someone to love you.

Let us keep in mind that we can’t force anyone to love us.  We shouldn’t beg someone to stay when they want to leave. That’s what love is all about – freedom.  However, the end of love is not the end of life. It should be the beginning of an understanding that love sometimes leaves for a reason, but never leaves without a lesson.

If someone truly loves you, they will never give you a reason to doubt it.  Anyone can come into your life and say how much they love you, but it takes someone really special to stay in your life and prove how much they love you.  Sometimes it takes a while to find the right person, but the right person is always worth the wait.

4. An intimate relationship is based strictly on physical attraction.

Being beautiful is more than how many people you can get to look at you, or how others perceive you at a single glance.  It’s about what you live for.  It’s about what defines you.  It’s about the depth of your heart, and what makes you unique.  It’s about being who you are and living out your life honestly.  It’s about those little quirks that make you, you.  People who are only attracted to you because of your pretty face or nice body won’t stay by your side forever.  But the people who can see how beautiful your heart is will never leave you. Let go of someone who is with you out of physical attraction.

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5. Someone continuously breaks your trust.

Love means giving someone the chance to hurt you but trusting them not to.  When you completely trust a person, without any doubt, you’ll automatically get one of two results – a FRIEND for life or a LESSON for life.  Either way, there’s a positive outcome.  Either you confirm the fact that this person cares about you, or you get the opportunity to weed them out of your life and make room for those who do.  In the end, you’ll discover who’s fake, who’s true, and who would risk it all for you.  And trust me, some people will surprise you.

6. Someone continuously overlooks your worth.

Know your worth!  When you give yourself to someone who doesn’t respect you, you surrender pieces of your soul that you’ll never get back.  There comes a point when you have to let go of someone and stop chasing some people.  If someone wants you in their life, they’ll find a way to put you there.  Sometimes you just need to let go and accept the fact that they don’t care for you the way you care for them.  Let them leave your life quietly.  Letting go is oftentimes easier than holding on.  We think it’s too hard to let go until we actually do.  Then we ask ourselves, “Why didn’t I do this sooner?”

7. You are never given a chance to speak your mind.

Sometimes an argument saves a relationship, whereas silence breaks it.  Speak up for your heart so that you won’t have regrets.  Life is not about making others happy.  Life is about being honest and sharing your happiness with others. Let go of someone who never give you the chance to speak your mind.

8. You are frequently forced to sacrifice your happiness.

If you allow people to make more withdrawals than deposits in your life, you will be out of balance and in the negative before you know it.  Know when to close the account.  It’s always better to be alone with dignity than in a relationship that constantly requires you to sacrifice your happiness and self-respect.

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9. You truly dislike your current situation, routine, job, etc.

It’s better to be a failure at something you love than to succeed at doing something you hate.  Don’t let someone who gave up on their dreams talk you out of going after yours.  The best thing you can do in life is to follow your heart.  Take risks.  Don’t just make the safe and easy choices because you’re afraid of what might happen.

If you do, nothing will ever happen.  Chances must be taken, mistakes must be made, and lessons must be learned.  It might be an uphill climb, but when you reach that mountaintop it will be worth every ounce of blood, sweat, and tears you put into it.

10. You catch yourself obsessing over, and living in, the past.

Eventually, you will overcome the heartache, and forget the reasons you cried, and who caused the pain.  Eventually, you will realize that the secret to happiness and freedom is not about control or revenge, but in letting things unfold naturally, and learning from your experiences over the course of time.  After all, what matters most is not the first, but the final chapter of your life, which unveils the details of how well you wrote your story.  So let go of the past, set yourself free, and open your mind to the possibility of new relationships and priceless experiences.

And the one thing you should never let go of is hope. Remember what you deserve and keep pushing forward. Someday all the pieces will come together. Unimaginably good things will transpire in your life, even if everything doesn’t turn out exactly the way you had anticipated. And you will look back at the times that have passed, smile, and ask yourself, “How did I get through all of that?”

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    My daughter has ghosted me and her father for 2 years. I am ready to accept it and move on.

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