Have you always found it hard to navigate a narcissist’s manipulative ways? If yes, then these facts will help you understand narcissists better.
“Narcissism falls along the axis of what psychologists call personality disorders, one of a group that includes antisocial, dependent, histrionic, avoidant, and borderline personalities. But by most measures, narcissism is one of the worst, if only because the narcissists themselves are so clueless.” ~Jeffrey Kluger
A report in Cosmopolitan Magazine offers ten very insightful points into the psyche of your everyday, average narcissist – and if you keep these in mind when you’re dealing with one, you’ll find yourself feeling much more in control of the situation.
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Facts that will help you understand narcissists better
10 Shocking Facts Your Narcissist Doesn’t Want You to Know
1. Do not try to shame a narcissist – they will make you pay big time.
You can’t shame a narcissist – they’ll make your life much harder if you do.
2. Narcissists get broken in childhood most of the time. More environment and less genetic.
The reason they’re so fragile and insecure on the inside and mean and hateful on the outside goes all the way back to childhood. Though researchers believe there might be a genetic component, the truth is that the way a child is raised has a great deal to do with how they turn out.
Also of note:
- There are two ways to “create” a narcissist – by denying a child unconditional love so they never feel comfortable in the emotional love or to totally go the opposite direction and overindulging, overpraising and under disciplining the child – making them believe they’re overly special.
- This would indicate that the term “happy medium” could apply to good parenting (My note)
3. Too many big responsibilities at an early age can create a narcissist.
Kids who got big responsibilities at an early age are more often narcissists than those who didn’t, whether it was direct responsibility such as for a sibling or indirectly such as for the emotional health of a parent.
This leads to their adult selves always seeking approval and trying too hard, never allowing themselves to just “be,” rather requiring to be the center of attention.
4. Narcissists need to feel like they are better than you – and they will hate you if they think otherwise.
A narcissist desperately needs to feel superior to everyone around him, because inside they don’t feel like they’re good enough. And they react with contempt to anyone who seems to have something they lack.
5. Narcissists are grandiose thinkers. They want to fill a big hole inside themselves.
Narcissists think big – that is, they are grandiose thinkers because they feel like it fills some hole inside themselves.
6. Narcissists almost always have an overblown sense of entitlement.
They have a huge sense of entitlement – they think they DESERVE to have what they want without regard for the needs and desires of those around them.