Shadow Self: 3 Ways To Embrace Your Inner Darkness

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This person displays the following characteristics: arrogance, egocentricity, pompousness, inconsiderateness, self-indulgence, narcissism, excessive pride.

 

2. The Neurotic Monster

Root cause: fear of life, others, and self; desire to regain control

This person displays the following characteristics: paranoia, obsessiveness, suspiciousness, finicky, demanding, masochistic, compulsive behavior.

 

3. The Untrustworthy Monster

Root cause: fear of life in general

This person displays the following characteristics: secretive, impulsive, frivolous, irresponsible, deceitful, unreliable.

 

4. The Emotionally Unstable Monster

Root cause: basic feeling of being “unlovable” and powerless; reaction to unresolved emotional pain

This person displays the following characteristics: moody, melodramatic, manipulative, weepy, overemotional, impulsive, changeable.

 

5. The Controlling Monster

Root cause: basic mistrust of life, feelings of abandonment and “not being good enough”




This person displays the following characteristics: suspicious, jealous, possessive, bossy, obsessive.

 

6. The Cynical Monster

Root cause: protection against feeling too vulnerable

This person displays the following characteristics: negative, overcritical, patronizing, resentful, cantankerous.

 

7. The Wrathful Monster

Root cause: fear of others, mistrust of life, closed heart

This person displays the following characteristics: ruthless, vengeful, bitchy, quick-tempered, quarrelsome.

 

8. The Rigid Monster

Root cause: fear and rejection of the unknown, chaos, and ego death

This person displays the following characteristics: uptight, intolerant, obstinate, uncompromising, inflexible, narrow-minded.

 

9. The Glib Monster

Root cause: distrust of life, others, and self

This person displays the following characteristics: superficial, cunning, inconsistent, sly, crafty.

 

10. The Nonchalant Monster

Root cause: buried grief, fear, and shame (numbness is a defense)

This person displays the following characteristics: emotionally detached, distant, indifferent, uncaring, unexcited.

 

11. The Perverted Monster

Root cause: repressed sexual energy, possible unresolved childhood wounds

This person displays the following characteristics: sadistic, lustful, depraved, corrupt.

 

12. The Cowardly Monster

Root cause: fear, disbelief in self

This person displays the following characteristics: weak-willed, timid, fearful.

 

13. The Naive Monster

Root cause: refusal to grow up, lack of individuated ego

This person displays the following characteristics: puerile, petty, immature, illogical, simpleminded, vacuous.

How many of these inner Monsters can you relate to? Keep in mind that this list only explores the dark side of the shadow, not the light side (where the positive repressed qualities of our nature are buried).




 

Embracing the Shadow Self

The secret is out: all of us, no exceptions, have qualities we won’t let anyone see, including ourselves – our Shadow. If we face up to our dark side, our life can be energized. If not, there is the devil to pay. This is one of life’s most urgent projects.

– Larry Dossey (Healing Words)

Our journey of Self-Realization is a bit like Dante’s Inferno.

Before making our way out of “hell” we must walk through the depths of our inner darkness. Many religions symbolize these experiences well. Two famous examples include the case of Jesus who had to face Satan in the desert and Buddha’s encounter with Mara (the Buddhist Satan) before his spiritual awakening.

When I write about embracing or integrating your shadow self, I do not mean to indulge in any desire that arises within you.




2 COMMENTS

  1. …to deny any part of the ''self'' is to deny the whole self…this is the problem with people…denial of the ..truth…if a thing exists so too will it's opposite both must be considered…''Dirt under the ''rug'' is still dirt''…