Falling in love with potential, and falling for almost all relationships turn out to be heartbreaking and devastating, but that is exactly what happens with empaths. Empaths tend to fall for people who don’t deserve their love, loyalty, and intensity, and if you are an empath, you know exactly what I am talking about.
And by the time you realize that maybe it’s not the right relationship for you, you are in too deep and you are finding it hard to let go.
Being an empath is a beautiful thing to be, and you should never think that you need to change yourself, just to be with someone you love. However, you can keep a few reminders in mind, so that you don’t get your heart broken again. These reminders can help you remember your sense of self-worth, and also help you to heal your broken and ravaged heart.
Here Are Reminders For Empaths Who Always Fall For Potential
1. Falling for potential is unhealthy, and will only cause you more pain.
As an empath, you have so much love to give to others, and that’s one of the reasons so many people are drawn to you, including the ones who don’t have your best interests at heart. Your empathy and selfless nature make everyone feel good about themselves, and they always want to be with you, so that they can feed their souls with your positivity and kindness.
But what about you, and your happiness? You keep falling in love with people who do just the bare minimum for you and get away with it because they know they can; you are someone who never expects too much from others because you feel the happiest when you are able to give. You ignore the red flags that keep on glaring in front of you and refuse to see that the relationship you are in, is not a real one, because you have simply fallen for potential.
The reason for this is, you are seeing your relationship as something that you want it to be, rather than acknowledging it for what it truly is. You need to understand what is reality and what is not, because if you don’t, you will keep on getting disappointed by people who don’t deserve even an ounce of your love.
2. You are not responsible for fixing people, who don’t want to be fixed.
As an empath, you have this constant desire of fixing people and trying to help them let go of their negativity and toxicity. Even though your intention is noble and you only have good interests at heart, you need to understand one very simple thing: you cannot fix people who don’t want to be fixed, and you cannot help people who don’t want to help themselves. You might think that your love is powerful and pure enough to help them, but sometimes it’s not.
And honestly, it’s not your job nor your responsibility to fix toxic people; if someone genuinely loves you as much as you love them, they would want to work on themselves and be a good person for you. Transforming oneself means having to do a lot of inner work, and introspection and some people are simply not capable of doing this. Some people never change. Some people do not mature into someone you hope you can love.
If you keep on falling for people hoping they would change with time, then you are only setting yourself up for more hurt and disappointment. Constantly harboring a hope like this will gradually turn poisonous, and will end up breaking you emotionally and mentally.