Have you ever wondered, how do you spark chemistry with a good man? Well, you’re not alone. Here’s an email I recently got from Rachel:
“Dr. Diana, I truly am ready to have a real relationship. With a nice guy. A good guy. I’m sick of my lousy choices! I just found out that Bob, who I dated six years ago and who was crazy about me, the guy who wanted a serious relationship with me– but I blew off… is married with two adorable toddlers.”
We’ll catch up with Rachel later on. Maybe like Rachel you’re done with players, the ones who come on strong and disappear, cheaters and all-around heartbreakers. You’re sick of being disappointed, hurt, betrayed, furious and depressed. Sick of lying on the couch with the remote and your cell while you go through a whole tissue box worth of tears.
Your mind tells you that choosing from a pool of nice guys will save you from more wasted time with men who are not into you. Or scoundrels who betray you or narcissists who blame you for any and every problem. You’re ready for a partner who is your best friend.
But There Is One Hitch: You Just Don’t Feel It With The Nice Guys.
No tingle. No adrenaline rush when he looks into your eyes. You wonder: How do you spark chemistry with the one guy you met online, the paunchy one? He’s a great guy, successful, giving, crazy about you, and even has nice eyes, you think.
But you’re not feeling like he’s the right one and what’s worse you don’t know how to spark chemistry with these nice guys. Are you doomed to only be drawn to those you can’t have?
Answer: No you’re not.
I’ve worked with many women who complained of the same dilemma: how do I spark chemistry with a good man? And where are they now? They married great guys. So what are the secrets that these women have used to be in committed relationships with great guys, good men who have integrity and are loyal.
Here then are nine relationship tips that my Love Mentors® share with their clients. Please use them to join the ranks of women who overcame their initial lack of attraction, learned how to spark chemistry and fell in love with terrific guys.
9 Relationship Tips To Spark Chemistry With A Good Man
#1. Tip to Spark Chemistry: Remember to give him a real chance.
Even if he is balding, paunchy, nerdy, or is not particularly attractive. In fact, you want to date against type. Be honest with yourself: Has dating your type gotten you anywhere? Even if the first date doesn’t blow you away, remember to stay open. Go for at least a second or third date.
You cannot know what secret goodies are hidden in someone by one meeting. So you have to let a potential partner unfold and show you his different sides. If there is any connection with this person at all, give it another chance.
#2. Tip to Spark Chemistry: Practice my Opening Possibility Exercises Now (OPEN.)
If a guy seems crazy about you, is willing to grow, and is a good guy–use my OPEN Techniques to see what may be there.
First, think of him as a present wrapped in nested boxes. As you interact, you are unwrapping the present and finding out more and more things about him that may be wonderful. This process often leads to marvelous chemistry and connection!