Dating a good man – Good men can be hard to find. But that doesn’t mean they are not out there. In fact, there are more good men than you can imagine, if you know where to look. But the thing is most of them are already taken as they know how to take care of their women.
So if you are dating a good man yourself or want to court a nice decent guy, then you need to start by knowing how to treat them so that they can give themselves to you. When you know how to love a good guy, they can easily turn into your Prince Charming.
“One day you will kiss a man you can’t breathe without and find that breath is of little consequence.” – Karen Marie Moning
There are millions of good men out there. Millions.
A good man, as the saying goes, is hard to find. Well, not really. There are millions of good men out there. Millions.
– Good men whose intentions are honorable.
– Good men whose behavior towards women is kind and respectful.
– Good men who appreciate love and value commitment.
– Good men who hew to a code of morality and decent conduct in their personal and professional lives.
– Good men who don’t need to be bad boys to prove themselves.
And these good men are not hiding. They’re everywhere, in plain sight.
The young cashier at the supermarket who asks how your day is going. The guy jogging along the bike path who smiles as you pass by. The weary commuter coming home on the late evening train with a bunch of flowers on the empty seat next to him. Some of these good men are already taken. But many are not. Many are available and looking for a good partner—a person who shares their values appreciates their efforts and treats them with respect.
When dating a good man, here’s a list of 5 attributes he looks for, and 5 he studiously avoids.
5 Dos and 5 Don’ts For Dating a Good Man
5 Do’s when dating a Good Man
“The best love is the kind that awakens the soul; that makes us reach for more, that plants the fire in our hearts and brings peace to our minds. That’s what I hope to give you forever.” – Nicholas Sparks, The Notebook
This is the absolute deal-breaker for a good man. He doesn’t need to know all your secrets, at least not at the beginning of your relationship. But there’s no greater turn off than his catching you in a lie about something a few weeks or a few months into your relationship. We all have dirty laundry—things we regret in our past, dysfunctional family members, financial issues—and it’s crucial to be truthful about these from the start. A good man is unlikely to ask too many probing questions or interrogate his potential partners because he wants to see you in the best light. But if he does ask, or if you’re hiding something for fear he won’t want you if you disclose it to him, you’re much better off getting it in the open and clearing the air before your relationship progresses. Good men are genuine, willing to be vulnerable, and open to intimacy with someone they trust. But if you make them feel duped, they’ll turn and walk away.
It’s not just that a good man likes to be respected, it’s that he knows he deserves it. Deserving something is different from feeling entitled to it. Deserving means he knows his own worth. If he keeps a tidy house or apartment and doesn’t like dishes left on the table or laundry thrown on the floor, don’t make fun of his habits; respect the way he treats his home. If he has activities he values that aren’t your cup of tea, don’t mock him for interests that may seem odd to you. And if he draws a boundary—around his time, his money, his family, or his degree of emotional involvement with you—respect it. Common wisdom says that women test men all the time, but men test women or any potential partner, too, in their own way. A good man doesn’t want someone who’s stepping into his life so that a person can walk all over him.