How Purpose Changes Across Your Lifetime

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Purpose Changes Across Lifetime

Are you sure about your purpose in life? is it fixed? Do you know purpose changes across lifetime?

Purpose is the stuff of inspirational posters and motivational speeches. When we find our purpose, they say, weโ€™ll know what we are meant to do in life. The path will be laid out before us, and our job will be to keep following that vision with unwavering commitment.

But is this really what purpose looks like?

Alongside the self-help hype is a body of research on purpose across the lifespan, reaching back more than 30 years. Following people as they grapple with their identity as teens, settle into the responsibilities of adulthood, and make the shift to retirement, this research paints a more complicated picture of purposeโ€”but a hopeful one, too.

Hereโ€™s the upshot: We donโ€™t have to worry about finding our one true purpose; we can find purpose in different areas of life. In fact, the purpose isnโ€™t something we find at all. Itโ€™s something we can cultivate through deliberate action and reflection, and it will naturally wax and wane throughout our lives.

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How Purpose Changes Across Your Lifetime

Like happiness, the purpose is not a destination, but a journey and a practice. That means itโ€™s accessible at any age if weโ€™re willing to explore what matters to us and what kind of person we want to beโ€”and act to become that person.

As you explore purpose changes across lifetime.

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This โ€œis a project that endures across the lifespan,โ€ as purpose expert Kendall Bronk and her colleagues write in a 2009 paper. If weโ€™re able to revisit and renew our sense of purpose as we navigate milestones and transitions, suggests this research, then we can look forward to more satisfying, meaningful lives.

Teens: Seeking purpose

A purpose in life is not just any big goal that we pursue. According to researchers, the purpose is a long-term aim that is meaningful to the selfโ€”but goes beyond the self, aiming to make a difference to the broader world. We might find purpose in fighting poverty, creating art, or making peopleโ€™s lives better through technology.

That process begins when weโ€™re teens, as we explore who we are, what we value, and what we want out of life, says Bronk, an associate professor at Claremont Graduate University. As they try different interests and activities, like music or volunteering, some teens start to discover paths they want to pursue. Other teens have challenging life experiences, like a parent being diagnosed with cancer or shooting in their hometown, that spur them to work on particular causes. Others are inspired by role models who are leading purposeful lives, from parents to coaches.

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Mariah Jordan from Cleveland, one of the winners of the GGSC Purpose Challenge Scholarship Contest, often accompanied her grandmother to doctorโ€™s appointments as a child. Over time, witnessing her grandmotherโ€™s experiences, she began to see the racial inequalities that existed in health care. She went on to volunteer in a medical setting and conduct research on cancer in African Americans, working to eliminate health disparities and bring more cultural sensitivity to the field of medicine.

William Damon, author of The Path to Purpose and a professor at Stanford, has spent nearly 20 years studying how people develop purpose in work, family, and civic life. As he describes it, purpose is something of a chemical reaction that takes place when our skills meet the needs of the world. Young people must identify something in their environment that could be improved, whether itโ€™s politics or modern jazz music, and recognize something in themselves that they can bring to bear on that problemโ€”leadership skills, say, or creativity.

Knowing your skills and your interestsโ€”and in a larger sense, your identityโ€”seems to be key to pursuing purpose. In a 2011 study, high school and college students answered surveys about their sense of purpose, as well as their sense of identityโ€”how clear they were on the kinds of jobs, values, friendships, politics, religion, and sex roles they would have in life. Researchers found that the more solid their sense of identity, the more purposeful they were. In turn, they were also happier and more hopeful for the future.

2012 study by the same researchers had a similar finding, but in the opposite directionโ€”with young people who felt purposeful building a more solid sense of identity over time. โ€œIdentity and purpose development are intertwined processes,โ€ write Patrick Hill of the University of Illinois at Urbana-Champaign and Anthony Burrow of Cornell University.

At this age, though, only about 20 per cent of teens have a strong sense of purpose in life, at least according to Damonโ€™s work. Others have pie-in-the-sky dreams or fun hobbies, or theyโ€™re just trying to get through high school. More often, childhood and adolescence seem to be the time when the building blocks of purpose are established, but weโ€™re still exploring what we want out of life.

Adults: Busy with purpose

According to Damon, most people who find purpose do so in their 20s and 30s. This is when we tend to start building a career and a familyโ€”both of which are major sources of purpose during adulthood, along with religion and volunteering.

In the family realm, we may find a deep sense of purpose from raising children, as well as taking care of aging parents. At work, we might feel fulfilled in supporting our coworkers, making a difference in the organization, or contributing to society, Damon writes.

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When education professional Paul LeBuffe found out that he was raising a special-needs child, it was a turning point for his family and his careerโ€”and his sense of purpose. Since then, he has been working to promote resilience in children and adults, and within his own family. Working in that field means heโ€™s always learning things he can apply to his own life, which helps give him a sense of balance.

While finding purpose can feel like an exciting adventure for young people, who might take gap years or try interesting electives in college, purpose becomes more urgent for adults.

In a 2009 study, Bronk and her colleagues surveyed people of different age groups, including nearly 400 young people (in their teens and early 20s) and over 400 adults (around age 35). When they were searching for purpose, young people were more satisfied with lifeโ€”but this wasnโ€™t true of adults. In fact, the more they were still actively seeking purpose, the less satisfied they were. The researchers surmise that this comes down to cultural norms and the expectations adults have for themselves.

โ€œIn our culture we expect young people to explore what matters most to them, but by midlife, we expect them to have sorted this out,โ€ write Bronk and her colleagues.

At some age, lacking in purpose becomes unpleasantโ€”but Bronk points out that having a purpose isnโ€™t always a picnic, either. Going after a big, long-term goal can be stressful and discouraging; as anyone who has raised a child knows, things that bring us meaning donโ€™t always bring us day-to-day fun and good cheer.

While there may be struggles, though, people who have that sense of direction and purpose do ultimately tend to have more satisfyinghealthier, and even longer lives.

Midlife and beyond: A crossroads of purpose

While purpose tends to be highest in adulthood, old age can come with a diminishing sense of purpose and direction. In one survey of people ages 50-92, only 30 per cent reported feeling purposeful.

The causes arenโ€™t too surprising. Two of the biggest sources of purpose for adults, work and family, take a major hit when we retire and when kids leave home. Suddenly, we wake up to days that arenโ€™t structured by meetings and deadlines, by soccer games and homework help. It can feel like the things that defined usโ€”our very identityโ€”are slipping away. On top of all that, niggling health problems can make it physically harder to stay involved with activities and people that might keep us feeling engaged.

Gerontologist and AgeWave founder Ken Dychtwald see a pattern where society doesnโ€™t recognize the value and wisdom of older people, writing them off as feeble or irrelevant, and elders donโ€™t always put in the work to learn new technology and connect with younger people. While society might be telling them to relax and enjoy their golden years, he says, many older adults just feel adrift.

Not everyone has this experience, of course. People who have strong relationships and a positive attitude toward ageing tend to fare better. In one study, researchers interviewed people ages 61-70 and identified the ones who were able to maintain or increase their sense of purpose over the decade. Those individuals often turned their efforts inward to become better human beings, learning new skills or tackling long-held emotional struggles. As Damon explains, the pause of retirement and an empty nest can be an invitation to introspection, in ways that werenโ€™t possible in our chaotic midlives, and a reconnection with the things that truly matter.

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John Leland, a New York Times reporter, had the opportunity to follow six New Yorkers over 85 for a year and get an intimate glimpse into their lives. They became his friends, he says, and their stories were featured in his book about happiness. He observes that the elders who held on to a sense of purpose thrived because of their flexibility. They rolled with the punches as their lives changed and evolved, and they remained open to new experiences.

โ€œThose who are able to understand their roles as constantly changing, constantly evolvingโ€”itโ€™s a story that theyโ€™re still writingโ€”are able to deal with the ups and downs that we all confront better than people who see themselves as fixed in one point,โ€ he says.

In many ways, the pursuit of purpose as an older adult looks a lot like it does for teens. Marc Freedman, founder of the generation-connecting organization Encore.org, sees this parallel, too: Instead of internships, Encore.org offers fellowships where older people spend up to a year working in nonprofits, foundations, and other social sector organizations. The experience is designed to help them find an โ€œencore career,โ€ a purposeful activity that serves the greater good and contributes to the world theyโ€™ll leave behind.

Gary Maxworthy, who won Encore.orgโ€™s Purpose Prize in 2007, was 56 when his wife died from cancer. After more than three decades in food distribution, he wanted to give back. He started volunteering at a food bank, where he quickly noticed a big problem and a big opportunity: Growers were having to send lots of โ€œimperfectโ€ produce to landfills because they couldnโ€™t sell it, and accepting fresh produce was too difficult for food banks. He created Farm to Family to solve that problem and ensure that fresh fruit and vegetables make it to families in need.

Other Encore.org fellows include retired doctors caring for underserved patients and retired tech company executives helping to improve online government services. Meanwhile, organizations like Stanfordโ€™s Advanced Leadership Institute and the Modern Elder Academy offer college-like experiences for older adults looking for a fresh start.

In Freedmanโ€™s experience, very few of us will wake up one day with a totally new purpose in life. Instead, he observes people draw on the skills, knowledge, and values theyโ€™ve cultivated over a lifetime to start a new chapter.

Thatโ€™s good news, because it means the building blocks of purpose are already within us when we reach maturity.

The practice of purpose

Years ago, Bronk interviewed young people about their sense of purpose, hoping to gain some insight into how it developed. Afterwards, she was surprised to hear how much the participants enjoyed the conversation. In fact, she and her team discovered that talking with young people about the things that mattered to them actually increased their sense of purpose in lifeโ€”an outcome the researchers hadnโ€™t even been looking for.

Thatโ€™s partly why Bronk believes, deep down, that everyone has a purpose, even if they donโ€™t realize it or know what it is yet. And, the purpose changes across lifetime.

โ€œWe all have things that we care about, we all have special talents that we can apply to make a meaningful difference in the world around us,โ€ she says. Other researchers agree that you can have a sense of purpose even if you canโ€™t write it down in a simple sentence: โ€œMy purpose isโ€ฆโ€

As weโ€™ve seen, we can have multiple purposes that rise and fall in importance over our lifetime, as schedules are juggled and priorities shift. When we face transitions, whether itโ€™s changing careers, going through divorce or illness, or hitting a milestone birthday, we may be prompted to slow down, reflect, and reprioritize.

In other words, purpose is a constant practiceโ€”which is something Leland took away from his time with New Yorkโ€™s โ€œoldest old.โ€

โ€œThey believed that purpose was something you created, not something you sought, and it would be something that you have to keep creating,โ€ reflects Leland. โ€œI think they would say that happiness would be the same thing. Itโ€™s something that you have within you, and you have to tap it and recognize it and cultivate it rather than waiting for it to come your way.โ€


Written by: KIRA M. NEWMAN

This article originally appeared on Greater Good, the online magazine of the Greater Good Science Center at UC Berkeley.”

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