7 Powerful Warrior Traits A Strong Woman Looks For In A Man

 / 

7 Powerful Warrior Traits A Strong Woman Looks For In A Man2

Is he strong and sensitive enough to stand by your side?

I recently read an article entitled, “You Don’t Need A Man, You Need A Goddamn Warrior.

 

Wow! Now there’s a compelling title (and concept) for you, ladies!!

In the article, the author tells strong women that having big dreams doesn’t mean we have to sacrifice the quality of our partnerships; it just means recognizing that what women want (and need) in a partner is more than an average, everyday man.

It’s a fantastic message that definitely hit home for me, so I shared it on social media with a call out of my own: For my wild women, my goddesses, my gorgeous friends who put themselves out there in the biggest ways, determined to bring your absolute best to this world and do right by this gift called life — you deserve a “goddamn warrior” — this warrior of yours is going to want to encourage the flame in you, instead of trying to douse it with his own insecurities.

I am one of those women extremely determined not to let a single moment of this wonderful (albeit tumultuous) life go to waste. And that means not settling on any partner (friend or romantic) who isn’t also completely and totally in love with their life. As such, my standard for the men I partner with is HIGH!

I’m not saying that men have it easy. Modern men are navigating their own dating and relationship intricacies. And the confusing and constantly high expectation of what constitutes being “a real man” these days is an ever-moving target now that gender roles are muddier than ever, and women aren’t afraid to ask for what they want (or leave if they don’t get it).

Sure, it’s the 21st century … but a lot of men were brought up with an early-to-mid 20th-century mindset, and as we all know — change is hard.

So what does this modern “goddamn warrior” man look like … this evolved male who can stand equally beside a wild woman, a goddess, a gorgeous spirit who puts herself out there fully?

 

Here are the warrior qualities strong women crave:

1. He knows that his circumstances are not his identity

When asked about himself, he thinks for a moment, goes inward and delivers a thoughtful response akin to, “I’m a work in progress.” He’s not his job, he’s not his house, or his car. He’s not his last mistake nor his most recent success. He’s a guy who understands that circumstances are beyond his control, therefore he takes the time to work on who he is first and foremost.

 

2. He takes bold action (that may even scare him a little)

He knows that the only way to know himself more deeply and grow himself more fully is by pushing his boundaries on a near daily basis (not just physically, but emotionally). That means feeling intimidated at times, because he knows that whatever truth he’s speaking today, he may see things differently tomorrow. However, he’s willing to lean in and explore those possibilities because that’s what it takes to know himself fully.

 

3. He values being right and wrong equally

He understands that making mistakes is a learning opportunity and that ever-changing subjectivity determines whether one is “right.” He embraces every situation, not as a permanent landing place, but as a chance to learn and grow. He’s well aware that the comfortable and the uncomfortable are, both, useful and necessary.

 

4. He relies on his own understanding of “strength” and “worthiness”

We have absolutely no control over others’ perceptions of us. He is less concerned with how others see his strength, his manhood … his worthiness and more concerned with what it takes to develop those characteristics within himself. He’s well aware that conditioning his strength means showing his vulnerability.

 

5. He admires others’ skills openly

He has hand-selected his own “goddamn warriors” (and goddesses) and is proud to collaborate with them. He touts their abilities to the rest of the world. He’s aware that their strength only make him stronger, it doesn’t diminish him.

 

6. He seeks connection, not separation

He’s aware of his impact on others, and theirs on him. He does compete with others or hold domain over anyone. There is no exchange of favors, no score-keeping, how could there be when he receives as he gives? He works hard so that he can take part in the rising tide that lifts all ships, not just in word but in deed.

 

7. He loves deeply and forgives easily

He is unafraid of what he has to lose, because he’s so excited about what he has to give; because he understands that life can change quickly, he makes himself present to each and every opportunity to love and to let go, so that he can make the most of each moment he’s alive — even when it hurts.

 

In a lot of ways the “Goddamn Warrior” is counter culture. We’ve learned to fight for what’s ours, to take care of our own, and be on constant watch for the next enemy.

Relative affluence over the past 100 years granted us the opportunity to evolve ourselves mentally, emotionally, and spiritually. We’ve risen up Maslow’s Hierarchy of needs and now have the opportunity to reach toward an unprecedented level of self-actualization. But, without the right mentors, we’re not clear how to do that with integrity, nor how to cultivate all the potential that’s within us.

That’s OK, the process to warrior-hood (or goddess-ness) is filled with thousands of tiny shifts toward a greater understanding. Trust yourself. Do your work. And, you’ll find everything you need to cultivate and rise into the best of who you are.

Become a Contributor at The Minds Journal

We Want To Hear Your Story. Share your work,thoughts and writings and we will make sure, it reaches the world! Submit Now


Written by Triffany Hammond

Originally appeared on Yourtango.com
Printed with permission from the author

Triffany is a Certified Professional Life Coach and best-selling author. Her superpower is forgiveness and its 100% teachable.
She prides herself on helping strong women tame their inner hot mess so they can reach their fullest potential in both professional success and personal happiness. Schedule your free consult to learn some tools that can help you too. 

You may also like

 

7 Powerful Warrior Traits A Strong Woman Looks For In A Man

Become a Contributor at The Minds Journal

We Want To Hear Your Story. Share your work,thoughts and writings and we will make sure, it reaches the world! Submit Now

— Share —

— About the Author —

Leave a Reply



Up Next

What Is Breadcrumbing And Why Do We Fall Victim To It?

What Is Breadcrumbing And Why Do We Fall Victim To It?

Have you ever been on the other side of breadcrumbing? If you have, you know how horrible it feels. So, what is the best way to deal with this? Let’s find out, shall we?

KEY POINTS

Breadcrumbing is characterised by avoidance of intimacy and commitment uncertainty.

Breadcrumbers often want to seek attention from their partners and appear cool to their friends.

Dealing with breadcrumbing sometimes involves breadcrumbing others.

Breadcrumbing takes its name from the Grimm Brothers story of Hansel and Gretel — two children who in escaping from their wicked stepmother, dr



Up Next

Want To Try Speed Dating? 6 Mindful Tips To Make A Real Connection

What Is Speed Dating: Interesting Tips To Real Connections

Is speed dating the most effective way to find your soul mate through a series of mini dates? Do you feel like giving this exciting trend a try? Let’s see how it works.

This is an event format that allows people to go on many dates within a short time to talk with several people.

Let’s discuss what speed dating is like, how it operates, and some suggestions on optimizing your love life!

What Is Speed Dating?



Up Next

Is He Drifting Away? 8 Signs He Is Losing Interest And How To Turn Things Around

Signs He Is Losing Interest: Is He Drifting Away?

It’s one of the worst feelings in this world when the person you love, starts to lose interest in you. You thought that everything was going great and you are the happiest you have ever been, and then suddenly, you realize that he is acting very distant and emotionally detached. Today we are going to talk about the major signs he is losing interest.

Once you know these signs you will be able to better understand what’s actually going on in your relationship, instead of staying in a bubble, not knowing the truth. Also, why do guys act so interested then pull away? So annoying!

And we won’t just talk about the signs he is losing interest, but we will also provide some effective and useful tips regarding what to do when he lost interest.

Whether you are in a new relationship or have been together for years



Up Next

How Healthy Relationships Can Improve Your Physical Health

How Healthy Relationships Can Improve Your Physical Health

Healthy relationships are crucial for feeling happy, positive, and also physically healthy. The physical benefits of healthy relationships are a lot, and this article is going to talk about that in detail. Let’s find out the importance of having strong and healthy relationships.

Humans need humans to survive.

It’s no secret that a healthy relationship can bring joy and happiness to your life, but did you know that it can also have a positive impact on your physical health?

From reducing stress levels to boosting your immune system, there are many surprising health benefits to being in a happy partnership. Read on to learn more.

We are social creatures who thrive on strong, healthy relationships with friends, colleagues and family me



Up Next

When You Refuse To Let Go Of Someone You Love, Even When They Don’t Love You Anymore

Why You Should Let Go Of Someone You Love

I get it. You don’t want to let go of someone you love. Even when it’s clear that it’s over. Even when it’s clear that it is time and things will only get worse from here. Yet, you want to hold on just a little longer. But if you truly love someone let them go.

“No! No! It’s fine. It’s absolutely fine. It’s working. Listen to me, I know it’s working. This is normal. Show me a relationship that doesn’t have problems. I will make it work. I know I can. Just give me a little time. Just a little more time. Please, just bear with me for a second here. Please. Don’t take it away from me yet. Please. It’s not time. It can’t be. Will you just listen to me once for god’s sake?”

But deep down you know it in your heart. You just know it. It is screaming at you. And even though you may pretend you



Up Next

7 Warning Signs Of Losing Yourself In A Relationship And How to Rediscover Your Sense of Self

Signs Of Losing Yourself In A Relationship

Are you starting to feel like you have lost yourself in a relationship? Do you have this persistent feeling that you don’t know who you are anymore? You know, that feeling when you are so caught up in someone else’s world, that you forget who you are? Well, these are just some signs of losing yourself in a relationship.

Believe it or not, this is actually quite a common feeling, and lots of people experience this. If you have ever felt like you have lost yourself in a relationship, then this article can be a godsend for you.

Let’s delve into the all those signs of losing yourself in a relationship, so that you can stop yourself from doing so (at least to some extent!). And not just this, we will also talk about what to do when you lose yourself in a relationship. So, are you ready to explore this? Let’s go then!



Up Next

How To Let Go Of Someone You Are Desperately Trying To Hold On To

How To Let Go Of Someone You Are Trying To Hold On To

Do you know what happens when you desperately hold on to someone you really need to let go of? When you hold on to the idea of “us” and refuse to see the reality for what it is? You force the person you love the most in the world to hate you. You compel them to resent you. And in this process, you hurt yourself more than the other person did. This is why it’s crucial that we talk about how to let go of someone you don’t want to lose.

No one wants to let go of love

Especially when it’s the real deal. Especially when you’ve been told you are not worthy of love all your life. And this one person comes into your life and completely changes