Finding Peace After A Toxic Relationship

Finding Peace After A Toxic Relationship

Are you trying to recover from a toxic relationship? Is it proving difficult for you to find some peace after a toxic relationship?

When a person is reeling in the aftermath of a toxic relationship, there are a number of steps towards finding inner peace that can help the survivor to transcend emotional pain.

It is inevitable that most people will encounter toxic people in either work, family, friendship or romantic relationships. The abusive person need not have a full-blown diagnosis of NPD (Narcissistic Personality Disorder) or psychopathy to cause emotional harm. Just possessing a few of the traits of pathological Cluster B personality disorders can render any contact with such a person equating to emotional harm and pain (Brown, 2009).

The good news is that once armed with information about how to protect oneself from deceptive, toxic people, healthy individuals develop a discerning shield in terms of their intimate relationships.

And in circumstances where a survivor has unfortunately been blindsided by a malignant narcissist or another toxic person, there is hope for healing and finding balance and good health.

 

 

I want to emphasize that experiencing a toxic relationship with an abuser is traumatic for the survivor. In the aftermath of narcissistic (or psychopathic) abuse, individuals can experience depression, anxiety, PTSD, C-PTSD (complex-PTSD), somatic pain, and panic attacks.  

Being in the force field of a pathological abuser for any length of time (but especially during chronic, long-term circumstances) results in psychological harm for the survivor. With that, it is imperative that the survivor seek out and obtain qualified psychotherapy with a licensed mental health professional who is trained in trauma-informed care and who knows about narcissistic/psychopathic abuse.

Life coaching by survivors can be very beneficial as well, to provide validation and confirmation. However, because recovery from toxic relationships can feel like you are emerging from the Dark Side with a complex constellation of clinical concerns.

Because of that, you require recovery with a clinician (psychotherapist) who understands the delicate interplay of trauma, healing from abusive relationships and has the training to provide such interventions.

If someone you are working with claims to be able to “treat” these clinical concerns, and they are not, in fact, a licensed clinician, they are practicing unethically and illegally, and out of their scope. Buyer beware. The good news is that there is a growing number of therapists who are trained in this specialty. Look for a trauma-informed, strengths-focused, empowering clinician to help you in your recovery.

The following are some suggestions for survivors that I provide for my clients in my own private practice. In the aftermath of abuse in a toxic relationship, survivors need and deserve inner peace and healing.

Here Are 6 Things You Can Do To Find Peace After A Toxic Relationship

 

1. As mentioned above, connect with a qualified helping professional who can address the very intricate and specific nuances of C-PTSD, depression, anxiety, etc.

Healing will take some time, and the traumatic grief resulting from the toxic relationship requires an “unpacking” that is multi-layered in the presence of a caring, empathic, non-judgmental specialist (In some circumstances telehealth consultation may be appropriate for individuals who are geographically far from specialists).

Do you know therapy can help you find peace after a toxic relationship? Read Complex-PTSD: Recovery In Psychotherapy For Survivors Of Narcissistic Abuse

In-person trauma-informed clinicians can also provide EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) interventions which help the brain to release how trauma is encoded. Trauma-informed clinicians may practice other interventions such as the Emotional Freedom Technique, somatic experiencing, mindfulness-based cognitive behavioral therapy and/or expressive arts.

You need to research and inquire how your trauma-informed clinician approaches trauma release and integrating wellness into the treatment plan.

 

2. Surround yourself with caring and authentic others in your tribe — these people may be family, friends, colleagues, helping professionals, acquaintances.

Part of the healing in the aftermath of a toxic relationship is continuing to experience safety and belonging in healthy circles of support.

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