Are you an introvert or an extrovert? If you are neither, you probably are an ambivert!
One common question that you might have come across several times in your adult life is – Are you and Introvert or an Extrovert?
Personality traits exist on a continuum and most of us aren’t introverts or extroverts –we fall somewhere in the middle of the spectrum. It is mostly difficult for anyone to fall exclusively in either of the extremities. Every individual is unique and to compartmentalize them to restricted personality types is almost next to impossible.
According to a study conducted by Adam Grant in The Wharton School, University of Pennsylvania, two – thirds of people were Ambiverts – who had both introverted and extroverted tendencies.
Let’s consider Introversion and Extroversion as a spectrum, where Ambiversion lies in the middle.
Ambiverts are flexible people who can easily fit in with either extroverts or with the introverts. They are at an advantageous position that way.
Another interesting myth that was busted during the Grant’s study was that Extroverts are good sales people.
His study proved that ambiverts’ greater social flexibility helped them to outsell other groups, moving 51% more product per hour than the average salesperson.
Here are 10 key traits which suggest that you might just be an Ambivert:
1. You have the traits of both Introversion and Extroversion.
The terms introversion and Extroversion were popularized by Carl Jung.
Extroverts feel energetic by attending social gatherings. They are outgoing, love being the center of attention at a party and like to talk things out with people.
Introverts gain their energy by spending their time in solitude. They prefer substantially deeper conversation to large social set up and prefer to live in their thoughts rather than speaking too much with others.
Do you feel that you identify with the traits on both sides of the spectrum? Then you’re Ambivert.
According to Paulette Kouffman Sherman, Psy.D, psychologist and author of The Book of Sacred Baths, if you‘re an Ambivert, you’re emotionally flexible.
Ambiverts can get energy from being with people and from being alone and they can be self-reflective in situations and also work things through by talking with others. – Sherman.
2. You like social gatherings as much as you crave alone time.
Sometimes you are outgoing and like spending time with people who you are comfortable with and sometime it entirely exhausts you.
You go through constant shifts in phases where in you want to go out with friends and spend time and phases where in you want to retire in your zone to recharge yourself.
The trick is to be self aware and plan your activities accordingly – being alone when you feel drained of energy and being social and engaging in outdoor activities.
3. You are productive in both solo and group work assignments.
If you are an Ambivert, you will excel both in solo activities and in group work assignments which require active interactions among members.
“This is because ambiverts can draw on extroverted traits while they’re in group settings, feeding off the energy and creativity, facilitating conversations and amping up the brainstorming, and they can also back off and give air time to others in the group without having to take over,” explains Grant Brenner, MD, a Manhattan based psychiatrist.
“When they are working alone, they can use their introverted traits to buckled down and dig deep, pulling the assignment together with the group in mind.” adds Dr Brenner.
4. You are an excellent communicator
Ambiverts can mould themselves according to the demand of the situation. They equally enjoy a small talk at a party, with a stranger as much as they enjoy meaningful and philosophical conversations. They are very intuitive and can gauge when it’s appropriate to speak and when they should listen instead.
Because they have traits of both extroversion and introversion they can express their ideas very comprehensively and also is a good listener when required. Hence they make excellent communicators.
5. You can blend with a range of different personalities.
Since, they have traits of both introversion and extroversion; they can get along easily with both introverts and extroverts.
They can easily blend in with a variety of personalities. Therefore, they are very good at creating connections with people.
6. You’re comfortable in most of the environments.
Ambiverts can thrive in both stimulating and non stimulating environments.
They can enjoy a calm and smoothing morning walk as much as they enjoy loud music at the party.
“Because they gain energy both from spending time with others and from alone time, most situations and environments can suit them,” Dr. Brenner says.
They are flexible, which can help them to speak to crowds and spend time alone in a work setting in front of a computer researching or writing. – Dr. Brenner
7. You can be indecisive and unpredictable.
Since you enjoy both alone time and spending time with people, sometimes you might just get confused and become indecisive as to what you want to do.
Sometime you might be confused between two lucrative ideas of either going out for a brunch with friends or sit at home and watch a movie. Because both the options seem equally exciting to you.
At other times, you might fail to comprehend your mood.
“When you find yourself in a social situation that you’re not in the mood for, you might become irritable or unusually quiet,” says Dr. Brenner.
“Or, you may find yourself completely bored when you’re alone at home, even though you know in the back of your mind there’s a book you’ve been meaning to read forever or a project you have to do.”
8. You have a love hate relationship with social media.
If you are an Ambivert, then you have a love hate relationship with the social media.
A part of you wants to stay in touch with people and seeks pleasure from social interactions while a part of you seeks alone time and is indifferent to what is going on in social media.
9. Your friends come to you for advice.
Since you have the traits of both Introversion and extroversion, your wisdom and balance attracts your friends to you for advice.
They know that you can be a good listener and also is observant, perceptive and intuitive. They amalgamation of characteristics from both the personality types give you the extra wisdom which your friends seek from you.
10. You have great entrepreneurial qualities.
The Wharton’s study has proved that Ambiverts and not Extroverts excel at sales.
Also, if you are an Ambivert you can be a great leader because you can relate to the thoughts of both your introverted and extroverted co workers with ease.
You have a calm and balanced approach with a right blend of assertiveness and enthusiasm that makes people to respect you and follow your lead.
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