Why Non-Attachment Is The Key To Finding Inner Peace

In a world burning with desire, work on attaining the wisest virtue – Non-attachment.

“Non-attachment” sounds a bit intimidating, doesn’t it?

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Unfortunately, most people tend to associate this spiritual phrase with being emotionally cold and unfeeling. But true non-attachment is quite the opposite: it allows us to live in this world fully, without being attached to people, things or thoughts that create suffering.

As the Dalai Lama was once quoted to have said, “Attachment is the origin, the root of suffering; hence it is the cause of suffering.” But we don’t have to sell everything we own and become monks or nuns to practice non-attachment; we simply need to understand the vital importance of letting go.

Non-attachment or release from desire has been spoken about in many religions such as Taoism, Hinduism, Jainism, and the Bahá’í Faith, but this concept is most commonly linked to Buddhism.


Here are a few perspectives from these spiritual traditions on non-attachment:

The root of suffering is attachment – The Buddha (Buddhism)

When we come to non-attachment, then we can understand the marvelous mystery of the universe: how it is intense activity and at the same time intense peace, how it is work every moment and rest every moment. – Swami Vivekananda (Hindu Tradition)

Consider the trees which allow the birds to perch and fly away without either inviting them to stay or desiring them never to depart. If your heart can be like this, you will be near to the Way. – Zen saying

Act without expectation – Lao Tzu (Taoism)

He who is attached to things will suffer much. – Tao Te Ching

Aparigraha (Non-attachment): One of the three pillars of Jainism

Attach not thyself to anything unless in it thou seest the reality of God. – Abdu’l-Baha (Bahá’í Faith)

Detachment is not that you should own nothing, but that nothing should own you. – Ali Ibn Abi Talib (Islam)

There are simply too many quotes out there on non-attachment to include here, but I hope these perspectives give you an idea of how important non-attachment is not only religiously, but on a global level.


What is Non-Attachment?

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So what essentially is non-attachment?

Non-attachment is not about being a cold or emotionally dead brick wall, instead, it’s about learning how to let go of the thoughts and emotions that create suffering.Once we can stop being so attached to our thoughts, we experience tremendous relief, inner peace, and a pervading sense of joyful well-being.

So how do we let go of our thoughts and emotions?

We must learn to observe and disentangle ourselves from our thoughts through practices such as mindful awareness, meditation, and self-inquiry.

When we can simply allow life to unfold naturally without being attached to outcomes, beliefs, feelings or opinions, then we experience true non-attachment. Picture this process of detachment like being an ice cube that slowly melts down into a puddle of flowing water. Water, like the practice of non-attachment, flows with life effortlessly and peacefully, whereas ice cubes do not. The goal of non-attachment, therefore, is to become like water.

Essentially, non-attachment is about letting go of everything, both physical and non-physical – or what spiritual teachers such as Eckhart Tolle refer to as “dying before you die.”

At first, this sounds scary, but dying before you die really only means letting go of everything that is preventing you from finding what is true, eternal, unchanging, and forever present.

In the words of Tolle,

“Death is a stripping away of all that is not you. The secret of life is to die before you die – and find that there is no death.”

So non-attachment, at the deepest level, is about returning back to your True Nature by loosening the grip of the mind on internal and external things.


Benefits of Non-Attachment

When we stop clinging to internal and external phenomena, our whole relationship with life is transformed.

Here is what may or may not happen when you learn how to practice acceptance and surrender:

  • You will stop being controlled by your emotions, instead, you’ll become interested in them
  • You won’t be attached to the outcome, meaning that you’ll be free from the dread, anxiety, and inner tension that comes with clinging to expectations
  • You’ll be more curious, open, and spontaneous because you have no predetermined desire or craving
  • You’ll be more peaceful and less neurotic, meaning that your relationships and friendships will drastically improve
  • You’ll feel consistently relaxed and serene because you’re not identifying with your thoughts and feelings (and instead you’re witnessing them as a “passive observer”)
  • You’ll be more resilient in the face of loss and death because you’re not attached to people and realize that all things are ephemeral
  • You’ll feel a sense of expansive freedom because you’re no longer a slave to the mind
  • You’ll feel a sense of wholeness because you don’t need or want anything in particular, you’re happy just as you are in the present moment
  • You’ll feel more love for yourself and others because you’re not attaching to beliefs and expectations about who you/others “should” be or what “shouldn’t” happen – you’ll give yourself and other people freedom to be themselves without judgment
  • You’ll experience more synchronicity as life unfolds effortlessly and naturally
  • You’ll no longer be addicted to “getting” things or filling an empty hole in yourself because you’re content and don’t attach to the belief that someone or something will “complete” you
  • You’ll feel more grounded and connected to life because you’re not lost in thought-based attachments – you’ll actually participate in life more fully
  • Your mind will become clear and you’ll be able to perceive the truth more easily
  • You’ll feel gratitude, love, compassion, and happiness permeate your life as you have let go of the need to chase happiness (which creates unhappiness)

Put non-resistance and non-judgment together with non-attachment, and you have a recipe for complete inner peace.


When we stop resisting life and judging things to be “good” or “bad,” we naturally let go of a lot of anger, hatred, fear, and sadness.

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Mateo Solhttps://lonerwolf.com
Mateo Sol is a prominent psychospiritual teacher whose work has influenced the lives of thousands of people worldwide. Born into a family with a history of drug addiction, schizophrenia, and mental illness, Mateo Sol was taught about the plight of the human condition from a young age. As a spiritual guide and teacher, Sol’s mission is to help others experience freedom, wholeness, and peace in any stage of life. See more of his work at Lonerwolf.com
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