New Year’s Resolutions Every Single Woman
Are you going to be alone again this year? When the clock strikes twelve and the ball drops, you find yourself alone among the cheering crowd as everyone else has someone to kiss. And slowly but surely you feel your insecurities and other negative thoughts rushing back in as you think about spending yet another year as a single woman. Screw that! 2020 is going to be an amazing year and all you need to do is set the tone right from the start. And the best way to do that is making the perfect New Year’s resolution for that you can keep.
“This is a new year. A new beginning. And things will change.” – Taylor Swift
Yup. It’s a cliché. That same old ‘New Year, New Me’ BS. But what if I told you it can help you become the best version of yourself despite how cheesy it may sound. All you need to do is bring about a small mental shift. Instead of seeking love outside, next year start looking for love inside. Tell yourself that you deserve the absolute best and you won’t settle for anything less, and that goes for dating and relationships as well. This is the perfect time to make a commitment to practice self-love and embrace the awesomeness that is YOU!
2020 Life Goal: Focus on yourself
“What the New Year brings to you will depend a great deal on what you bring to the New Year.” – Vern McLellan
So 2019 was disappointing. Your love life didn’t go anywhere and things actually got worse than you expected. However, as the New Year’s Eve approaches, we feel pressurised to have someone by our side to kiss at midnight. But when you’re a single woman who has had some really terrible dates throughout the entire year, the New Year’s Eve can feel depressing and unsatisfactory. But the truth is, that’s NOT what the new year is about. It’s not about how or who you date. A new year is about making the most of available opportunities to bring in a change in your life. This is a time for rebirth, renewal and brand new beginnings. The New Year’s Eve IS about that ‘New Year, New Me’ BS despite how much cheesy it may sound. And all that can start by making a killer New Year’s resolution.
Entering a new year feels like opening a new door of opportunities to better health, better career, better lifestyle and better relationships. This is a great time to reflect on what’s working for you and what habits you need to ditch. Whether you’re trying to heal a broken heart, relishing your independence, enjoying being newly single or looking for someone special, this is the time to up your game, in life and in dating.
Empowering New Year’s resolutions for single women
Making the right New Year’s resolution as a single woman to start fresh on January 1 can help you make the most of your singlehood and empower you to build the life you actually want. So are you ready to rule 2020?
With 2020 just around the corner, here are some solid new year’s resolutions for single women that will keep you motivated and help you start the year right.
1. Show yourself some love
“If you can’t take care of yourself, you can’t take care of someone else.” – Sahithi Setikam
Love yourself first and foremost. Make this your mantra for 2020. Unless you learn to love yourself, you cannot love another person. If you don’t take care of your mental, emotional and physical needs yourself, you won’t be able to take of your partner either. You will keep expecting them to take care of you and that will lead to an unhealthy and toxic relationship. So take yourself shopping, get yourself some flowers, go out on a date with yourself, have some great food and enjoy your own company. And ALWAYS tell yourself how beautiful you are.
2. Embrace your singlehood
“Single is no longer a lack of options – but a choice. A choice to refuse to let your life be defined by your relationship status but to live every day happily and let your ever after work itself out.” – Mandy Hale
As I mentioned earlier, being single means no relationship restrictions. So enjoy this freedom right now before someone great comes into your life. Being an independent woman and having the freedom to be yourself is the most beautiful thing. Enjoy it now and carry it into your relationship as well.
3. Delete all dating apps
2020 is the time when you take a much needed break from Tinder and other dating apps. Deactivate your account and uninstall them. Do whatever that works for you and stop wasting your valuable time on swiping through worthless profiles mindlessly. This is an unhealthy practice that keeps you trapped in the loop and makes you feel depressed and discouraged about love and relationships.
Moreover, you also need to stop posting negative stuff on social media despite how low or depressed you may feel at the time. Instead of letting the world know how desperate you are for a relationship, talk to a trusted friend. People online don’t care about the pain you’re going through. To them, you’re just content. So get rid of those pesky dating apps and use your smartphone smartly.
4. Stop chasing men
“Single is not a status. It is a word that best describes a person who is strong enough to live and enjoy life without depending on others.” – unknown
2020 is the time you stop searching for dates everywhere you go. It’s the year you stop pursuing men and let them chase you. Instead of wasting your time on looking for potential dates, utilize the time by enjoying your own company, food or activity you are engaged in at that moment. The more you pursue for a soulmate, the more anxious and depressed you’re going to feel. You will lose your inner peace and feel emotionally drained every time you face rejection. This is the year you focus on yourself. You matter the most.
5. Set your standards
Define what you want from your life and your relationships. Write down a list of all the behaviors and traits you expect from a romantic partner on one side and list down all the things that are a turn off of deal breaker for you on the other side. You can take cues from your previous dating and relationship experiences to set your standards for future relationships. This process makes you more aware of what you are looking for in a relationship. After you have set your standards, make sure you don’t settle for anything less. You can put anything in the list that’s important to you, regardless of how silly it may sound.
6. Nurture friendships
“Friendship marks a life even more deeply than love. Love risks degenerating into obsession, friendship is never anything but sharing.” – Elie Wiesel
You need your gal pals to give you some mental and emotional support when you are feeling down. But most of all, you need them to hang out and have fun. However, being in a relationship can seriously affect your friendships as you start spending more and more time with your bae. But being a single gal, you can now reconnect with your old besties and go out with them for coffee dates or cocktails almost on a regular basis. Being single is also a great opportunity for making new friends. You can meet different types of people and learn about new cultures, experiences and situations.
7. Be a “YES” woman
Have an open mind and an open heart and start saying “yes” to different opportunities, including dating. In 2020, make a promise to yourself that you will learn a new skill or try something new every month. You can also share this resolution with a friend so that you motivate each other and achieve your goals. Moreover, once you’ve set your dating standards, you can be more open to going on dates and just enjoy yourself instead of looking for a relationship on the first date. Knowing what you want from a man will help you understand who is good for you and you should skip.
8. Don’t compare yourself to others
“If you really are going to be a happy single, you have to stop treating being single as the annoying time that you pass between relationships and embrace it. Rather than focusing on what you lack, focus on what you have: You.” – Natalie Lue
When you’re a single woman, you start comparing yourself to other people who are in seemingly happier relationships. This leads to disappointment and you start feeling sorry for yourself. In 2020, promise yourself that you will be more aware about not doing this even once. You have a wonderful life right now and when the time comes, you will be in a healthy, happy relationship. Moreover, what you see on Instagram and all those “relationship goals” posts, those do not reflect reality. In real life, relationships take a lot of effort and patience. So go ahead and enjoy the life you have right now. It’s high time you stop making yourself feel bad just because your single.
“Drop the last year into the silent limbo of the past. Let it go, for it was imperfect, and thank God that it can go.” – Brooks Atkinson
We all have our insecurities. It’s what holds us back in life. But 2020 is the time you say goodbye to all those insecurities you’ve been carrying so carefully all these years. Write down all the negative qualities or flaws you may think you have on a piece of paper. Once you are done, tear up the paper and burn it. Watch your insecurities and false beliefs turn to ash and then dump it in the trash can. Now that your insecurities are gone, focus on your strengths and work on your weaknesses.
Being single is great
It’s hard, but still great.
If you want to make 2020 the best year of your life, then you need to start by enjoying your current relationship status: single. There are a bunch of advantages to being a single woman. Why not enjoy them while it lasts? To start with, you can do whatever you want, whenever you want and with whoever you want, without having to answer to anyone. Being a single woman means freedom and independence. But it can also mean loneliness. However, being in a happy relationship should not be a solution or goal. Being in a relationship is as hard as being single.
“Being single is about celebrating and appreciating your own space that you’re in.” – Kelly Rowland
So this year, stop wasting your time on thinking about when you’re going to meet someone special and be in a relationship so that you finally start feeling happier and more fulfilled. If you don’t feel happy and fulfilled with yourself, can you feel better with someone else? Use this new year to start accepting yourself the way you are and give yourself the love and respect you seek from others. And if you come across ‘Mr. Right’ along the way, then that will be the cherry on the cake.
So when 2020 comes knocking on your door, start by getting rid of all the toxic energy from your past relationships and bring in some positive energy into your heart and soul. And the best way to do that is by making the right New Year’s resolution. This will help you gain a new and fresh perspective in life and make you more open to new opportunities and possibilities that 2020 has to offer.
“Cheers to a new year and another chance for us to get it right.” – Oprah Winfrey