“Choose your life’s mate carefully. From this one decision will come 90 percent of all your happiness or misery.” -H. Jackson Brown, Jr.
Marriage is a serious commitment that involves being on a life long journey with someone. You should marry the person who is your lover and best friend, confidante and cheerleader, who will stand by you through thick and thin, with whom you can grow and evolve together and share this incredible ride called life.
No matter how head over heels you are in love with someone, never marry these eight types of guys:
1. The guy who objectifies women and sees them as merely objects for pleasure
The guy who only sees women as objects for pleasure will only love you as a fancy car or watch and will stay will you as long as you satisfy his needs.
He will not be interested to know you as a person. You will not be fulfilled emotionally, intellectually or spiritually.
This guy is a complete no when it comes to something as crucial as marriage.
2. The guy who is self-centered and can’t think beyond himself
A relationship is a two-way street. It involves giving generously and accepting graciously. But a guy who is self-observed will just be concerned about what he can get in a relationship without putting in any effort or care to nurture the relationship.
The guy who is so self-centered that he can’t think beyond himself will just be concerned his own needs and wants all the time. He will be in the relationship to fulfill his own agendas without giving a hoot about what you want or need.
Being with such a narcissist is highly toxic.
3. The guy who is materialistic
If a guy is shallow and materialistic, he would never understand the intricacies of human emotions and life. He will just be interested in shallow talks and gifts and will just be concerned about keeping up the mask of his grandiose self-alive. He won’t be able to handle any authenticity or vulnerability.
If you do not want to swim in shallow waters and want to taste the entire experience that human life has to offer, stay away from him.
4. The guy who is a party animal
It is good to have fun and let your hair down occasionally, but if a guy parties all the time. He will not be ready to take up any responsibility and will lack the maturity to handle the changes that a married life brings
5. The guy who is a control freak
This guy would want to know all your whereabouts, would want to decide on what types of clothes you wear and what kind of friends you have to what kind of work you do.
He will basically think he is superior to you and would want to control how you function. If you get into a relationship with such a guy, you will lose your freedom and individuality and no relationship is worth losing that. Stay the hell away!!
6. The guy who is insecure
The guy who is insecure would stop you from meeting other guys and will keep a tab on all your activities.
He is basically suffering from an inferiority complex and thinks he is not good enough. He will project his insecurities on you by accusing you of infidelity and not spending enough time with him.
Let him deal with his insecurity issues on his own. Don’t try to be a savior or a counselor girl!
7. The guy who is commitment phobic
If the guy doesn’t want to commit at all, you can’t expect a secure future with him. These types of guys don’t want to tie themselves to anyone and want to live on their terms and conditions. They want to be vulnerable or emotionally intimate with anyone. If you are looking for a long-term, holistic and fulfilling relationship, stay away from them.
8. The guy who doesn’t know how to have a conversation with you
In a relationship, there would invariably be difference of opinion, and two mature individuals can find a way through by talking it out and having a healthy discussion.
But if you are with a guy who is immature to have difficult conversations in a healthy way, you will be screwed.
These kind of guys can’t hold a conversation if the situation gets difficult or tricky. They lack the maturity to solve the problem by constructive discussions. They would rather run away from the problem than confronting them.
If you end up marrying such a guy, you would time and again find yourself in stressful situations where you would be only one trying to solve a problem with no help or support from the other side.
It is better to stay away from them.