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7 Signs You’re With The Wrong Partner

7 Signs You're With The Wrong Partner

My clients often ask me, “How can I know that my partner is the right one for me?”

You have to start with knowing why you want to be in a relationship, and when it comes down to it, there are only two reasons people do this:

 

1. To get love, security, validation, and safety, or to have a child. Someone to complete you — to fill your emptiness and make you feel adequate and worthy.

2. To share love and companionship, and to grow emotionally and spiritually.

 

You need to BE the right partner before you can know if you’re with the right partner. That means you need to learn to love yourself, define your own worth, and fill yourself with love to share, rather than pursuing external validation. Ask yourself, “Am I filled with love to share, or am I needy and desperate to get love?”

If your intent is to get love rather than share love, then it’s likely that no relationship will ultimately be right for you. You have some internal work to do before anyone will be the right partner for you.

You don’t need to be “perfect” at loving yourself, but you do need to be working on learning to take responsibility for your own feelings of worth, adequacy, and safety.

 

If you fall into the second category (wanting to be in a relationship to give love and to grow), then ask yourself the following questions:

 

1. Is the person you’re with open to learning about themselves and about you?

Being open to learning how to love yourself and others — rather than being closed and defensive — is essential for sustaining a loving relationship. Partners cannot resolve conflict without being open to learning. The question to ask yourself is, “What does this person do in conflict?”

Some people can appear to be open and loving until a conflict occurs and then they get angry, withdrawn, resistant, or overly compliant. If they do close up, how long does it take them to open again? Obviously, if they get emotionally or physically abusive, they are not the right partner for you.

Being open to lovingly resolving conflict is essential for perpetuating a loving relationship.

 

2. Is your partner capable of caring, compassion, empathy, and acceptance for who you are?

If you find that your partner is incapable of feeling empathy, then he or she isn’t the right partner for you. A lack of empathy is one of the signs of narcissism.

 

3. Do you feel a basic spark of attraction? Do you like to be near this person? Do you like their smell?

If you do not feel physically attracted to this person within the first six months of the relationship, it’s likely an attraction will not develop. This person might be a good friend but not a romantic partner.

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Written by Dr. Margaret Paul

CO-CREATOR OF INNER BONDING

Dr. Paul is the author/co-author of several best-selling books, including Do I Have To Give Up Me to Be Loved By You?, Inner Bonding, Healing Your Aloneness, The Healing Your Aloneness Workbook, Do I Have To Give Up Me to Be Loved By My Kids?, and Do I Have To Give Up Me To Be Loved By God? Dr. Paul's books have been distributed around the world and have been translated into eleven languages.

Dr. Margaret holds a Ph.D. in psychology and is a relationship expert, noted public speaker, workshop leader, educator, chaplain, consultant, and artist. She has appeared on many radio and TV shows, including the Oprah show. She has successfully worked with thousands of individuals, couples and business relationships and taught classes and seminars since 1967.

Margaret continues to work with individuals and couples throughout the world on the phone and on Skype. She is able to access her own and her client's spiritual Guidance during her sessions, which enables her to work with people wherever they are in the world. Her current passion is working on and developing content for this Website, as well as distributing SelfQuest®, the software program that teaches Inner Bonding® and is donated to prisons and schools, as well as sold to the general public.

Margaret Paul, PhD
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