Mastering the art of persuasion gives you power.
You’re on the most important elevator ride of your life. You have ten seconds to pitch- the classic “elevator pitch”.
Love or Hate. Money or Despair. And you may never get this chance again. As PM Dawn says, “I feel for you. I really do.”
Most people will be scared and desperate and afraid to ask someone to give them, want them, love them, all in the space of an elevator ride or in the time it takes one to ride an elevator.
One might be in a critical situation when one has to convince absolute strangers to do something for them.
Persuasion is an art. One is either successful in doing it or they miserably fail.
The ideas below have worked in a number of circumstances – in writing or in person, in business, in friendships and in love. Try them out.
A) WHO ARE YOU?
People want to know they are talking to a good, honest, reliable person that they can trust and perhaps even like, or love.
Yes, love.
They won’t love you by looking at your resume.
You have to do method acting. Imagine what your body would feel like if they already said “Yes” even before you open your mouth.
You would be standing up straight, smiling, palms open, ready to close the deal. You have to method act at the beginning of your pitch.
If you are slouched and your head is sticking out then your brain is not as well-connected to your nervous system and you won’t be in ‘flow’.
The reality is: when you’re slouched over, not only are you not using the full potential of your brain, but you look untrustworthy.
B) RELAX
Think about how you breathe when you are anxious and nervous.
I will tell you how I breathe: short, shallow breaths in my upper chest.
So do the reverse before a ten second pitch.
Breathe deep and in your stomach. Even three deep breaths in the stomach (and when you exhale try to imagine your stomach almost hitting your back) has been shown to totally relax the mind and body.
People sense this. Again, this builds trust and relaxes you.
Now, even though you haven’t said a single word, you’ve probably done the two most important things for persuading someone.
C) UHHH. YEAH. UHHH. MMMM-HMMM. UH-HUH
It seems natural to say, “yup” or “right” or “uh-huh” or whatever.
But here’s the facts (and, again, there’s been studies on this): people perceive you as stupid when you do this.
Just keep quiet when someone is talking.
Then, when someone is done speaking, wait for two seconds before responding. They might not be done yet. And it gives you time to think of a response. If you are thinking of a response while they are talking, then you aren’t listening to them.
People unconsciously know when you are not listening to them. Then they say No to you.
D) THE SIX U’s
Finally, now we’re getting to the heart of the matter.
These six U’s are the actual nuts and bolts of persuasion.
This is not BS. This is not a way to convince someone to do something they don’t want to do. This is a way for you to consolidate your vision into a sentence or two and then express it in a clear manner.
This is the way to bond and connect with another person’s needs instead of just your own pathetic wants.
You can use this in an elevator pitch, on a date, with your children, on your mother, whatever. But it works.
The most efficient techniques are mentioned below (think about these things when talking) :
1.Urgency: Why the problem you solve is urgent to your demographic. For example: “I can never get a cab when it rains!”
2.Unique : Why is your solution unique: “We aggregate 100s of car services into one simple app. Nobody else does this.”
3.Useful: Why is your solution useful to the lives of the people you plan on selling to or deliver your message to: “We get you there on time.”
4.Ultra-Specific: This shows there is no fluff: “Our app knows where you are. Your credit card is pre-loaded. You hit a button and a car shows up in 4-5 minutes.” Of course the example given is for Uber but you can throw in any other example you want.
5.User-friendly:In other words, make it as easy as possible for someone to say “yes”. Like a money back guarantee, for instance. Or a giveaway. Or higher equity. Or testimonials from people you both know.
5.Unquestionable Proof: This can be in the form of profits. Or some measurable statistic. Or testimonials. Or a good wing-man. Whatever it takes.
E) DESIRE
A lot of people say you have to satisfy the desires of the other person in order for them to say “yes”.
As much as we would like to think otherwise, people primarily act out of self-interest.
The less they know you, the more they will act of self-interest because to do otherwise could potentially put them in danger. We all know that kids shouldn’t take candy from strangers.
In an elevator pitch, the investor is the kid, what you are asking is the candy, and you are the stranger. So their gut reflex, unless you make the candy super-sweet, is to say “no”.
So make sure you make your candy sweeter by sprinkling in their desires.
And what are their desires?
- recognition
- rejuvenation
- relaxation
- relief
- religion
- remuneration
- results
- revenge
- romance
If you can help them solve these URGENT problems or desires, then you they are more likely to say “yes” to you.
I don’t know what you are selling, but hopefully it’s not to satisfy their desire for revenge. But if it is, don’t do anything violent.
F) OBJECTIONS
Everyone is going to have gut objections.
They’ve been approached 1000s of times before.
But probably many others have and you have to put up with their non-stop objection.
I will list them and then give solutions in parentheses:
- No time (that’s ok. It’s on an elevator. So they have elevator-length time. The key here is to stand straight and act like someone who deserves to be listened to).
- No interest (you solve this by accurately expressing the urgency of the problem)
- No perceived difference (but you have your unique difference ready to go)
- No belief (offer unquestionable proof that this works)
- No decision (make their decision as user-friendly as possible)
Most people don’t have the power of persuasion. They mess up on each of the points I’ve outlined above. It takes practice and hard work.
But this is not just about persuasion. It’s about connection.
It’s about two people, who are probably strangers, reaching through physical and mental space and trying to understand each other and reach common ground.
It’s not about money. It’s not about the idea. It’s not about yes or no.
It’s about two people falling in love.
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Originally appeared on The GoodmenProject.com
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