“Men are simple creatures!”
I hear this dismissive statement ALL the time. So much so, that now even men are speaking it. It pisses me off! Me and my brothers…are NOT simple. We are unbelievably complex, mysterious and beyond beautiful in very unique ways.
All things being fair, men have created this worldview of ourselves and it’s not women’s fault this statement is now articulated with a condescending giggle and eye roll to follow. (insert the sound of clinking apple-tini glasses here.)
You girls have given up on us, or at least dumbed us down to a form of low expectations so your disappointments in us are tolerable. We get it! And, if you haven’t listened to my 8 min short film called, “The Apology Project”, please do that now and then continue reading.
Women need a guide. Not a manipulation manual of how to get a guy to do what you want. Not another book from an excited feminist over-eager to convince women they don’t need us guys which is really a disguise for not dealing with her own wounds from men. A guide. You know what…that’s not the right word either.
You need a Man Interpreter!!
There! In the hundreds of women I speak to, it’s all the same question…“what did he mean by that?”
Hello, I’m the women’s ambassador here, ready, capable and qualified to translate and build bridges between the sexes. You lovely ladies have been saying the EXACT same things: how do you get a good man? How do you keep it magical?
What you do NOT know is guys, well we’re asking the same question!
So let’s jump in the deep end. This is a controversial subject which usually lands me in kinds of boiling (and frigid) water with you girls but in the end, you warm up, cool down and join me in the middle ground of dry land where we can all look at each other and say, “Hey, I kinda dig you.”
While men normally mean much more than they convey, it’s usually not what you think.
Below is a list of what we say, what we mean, and the many translations in between. Bare with me, this is gonna get a bit ugly, but we’ll muddle through it together.
I love you = Among the scariest words a man will say, what he means is…“this is me and I hope you see me too. You have ignited so many feelings in me that these three little words are all I can muster.”
You’re Beautiful = “I only have these two words to tell you how exquisite I think you are and so I’ll default to this one that will safely get me closer to you.”
I’m Tired = “Please don’t think of me as weak, I don’t know how else to tell you that I’m up against trials and don’t know how to ask for help.”
He says nothing = “lead me into something of importance, a space where I can tell you how I really feel.”
You’re being emotional (if said with anger or an elevated tone) = “I’m not comfortable with or don’t know my own emotions and you sharing yours are showing me this inadequacy in myself.”