Since peaceful reconciliation unfolds through love and compassion, it’s only possible to rebuild relationships with people who are open and willing. Therefore, instead of forcing communication, we must wait until our family and friends get out of their heads and into their hearts. However, when this finally happens, we must build a new foundation for each old relationship, and this often means cultivating non-religion based commonalities, developing deeper communication, and agreeing on boundaries that support the relationship (for example, avoiding controversial topics such as spirituality and religion).
Also, if a family member or friend begins their own journey out of religion, you’ll probably be the first to know. By holding a safe space for exploration and supporting their transition, you could be their lifeline to freedom. However, be careful “not to push” and don’t be the first to bring it up.
Stage 8 – The Stage of Integration
Leaving organized religion is always life-changing, and while learning to live without familiar constraints, freedom can feel overwhelming at first. No doubt, spiritual sovereignty requires a major shift in consciousness, and, oftentimes, integration comes in waves.
To ease the transition period, it’s important to give your new lifetime and space to unfold, and, along with these two essential gifts, it’s equally important to practice self-love and become your own best friend!
As a byproduct of leaving organized religion, it’s normal to be suspicious of spirituality and even reject it entirely. However, just because religion let you down, it doesn’t mean that spirituality is equally deceptive.
For many people, the loss of organized religion leaves an empty space – along with the desire to fill it. Since how you fill that emptiness can make all the difference in the world, it’s important to consciously fill the space with your own thoughts, beliefs, and intentions. By mindfully cultivating a spiritual practice that supports you, there are no convoluted standards to meet or unreasonable conditions to satisfy, and no matter what you do or don’t do, you can’t get it wrong. When it comes to spirituality, you are unconditionally worthy, right from the start, and with nothing to prove nor perform, there are no hoops to jump through or people to please, and this means that there’s never a reason to give your power away.
So, rather than throwing out spirituality with religion, you have the power to create a direct connection to Source on your own terms.
Finally, although you might experience a period of time without the support of a loving community, be careful not to judge changing circumstances prematurely. As a massive awakening unfolds, people all over the world are leaving various situations and organizations that no longer fit, and just like you, looking for the place they belong. As a result, like-minded people are forming new paradigms of communities where everyone thrives.
So, after you say farewell to organized religion and you discover who you really are, don’t be surprised to find an ideal community waiting just for you!
For more on this topic, please check out my previous articles, Waking Up From Religion and Recovering from Religious Repression – The Journey to Freedom.
In love, grace & gratitude,
Copyright: Nanice Ellis 2019. All rights reserved
Religion is a big deal for a lot of time, and at some point, it was the same for you. But if presently, leaving organized religion seems like a good idea to you, then go for it. You are not defined by your religion, and you have every right to decide what you will keep in your life and what you won’t.