How To Know If It’s Time to Let Go of Toxic Friends or Family: 15 Questions To Ask

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This blog guides you to know if it’s time to let go of toxic friends and relationships in your life.
Most Empaths have at least one person in their life who causes them to experience negative emotions, just by being in their presence.

These people, who may be friends or family members, seem to spew acid when they talk: they complain about everything, appreciate nothing and only look out for their own interests.

It is quite normal for an Empath to experience heightened emotions and feel another’s buried pain, and we want to help others out with their problems when we can, but we are not supposed to be someone’s emotional punch bag or toxic dumping ground.

Toxic people can drain your energy within a matter of minutes of being in their presence, and even self-protection techniques may not work to prevent their dark vibes from seeping in.

Typical Sensations Experienced When With Toxic People:

1. Anger or feelings of bitterness:

This can last for the duration of being in their presence and up to 10 days after. Depending on their negative traits will depend on what you feel.

2. Fatigue:

Struggling to keep your eyes open, especially if they are venting.

3. Being out of sorts:

A range of strange feelings washes over you, from being spaced out, to nausea.

4. Negative talk:

Finding yourself talking negatively of others, even though it is not a typical trait of yours.

5. Apathy:

Losing all previous zest and optimism.

You Can’t Be Friends With Those Who Broke Your Heart
How To Know If It’s Time to Let Go of Toxic Friends or Family: 15 Questions To Ask

If you have a toxic person in your life, you may have already tried helping them, by sharing what has helped you in dealing with the rigours of life. Sadly, they did not want to listen and have no intentions of making any changes to themselves, preferring to continue to offload their negative rants on you.

Related: 11 Signs It’s An Emotionally Abusive Relationship

The Empath generally avoids hurting or causing unnecessary pain to others, and it is, for this reason, many keep in their lives those who cause them unhappiness. Yet, one must always put the emotional health of self first.

If food or substance made you violently ill or caused you to feel depressed, you would likely avoid it; the same should be applied to those who cause emotional turmoil.

We have a responsibility to keep our body and mind healthy. If another continually causes stress that we cannot cope with (all stress eventually leads to illness) the only option is to remove them from our life.

I am not talking about having the ego dented by another’s random disrespect. Everyone have people who offend, hurt or make them angry, by their lack of understanding. And we in turn will no doubt, unknowingly, do the same to others. This issue is about those toxic friends, or family members, who repetitively (and often intentionally) bring us down.

The point comes in all toxic friendships when you have to decide if it is causing more harm than good.

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How To Know If It’s Time to Let Go of Toxic Friends or Family: 15 Questions To Ask

Here Are Some Questions To Ask That May Help You Evaluate Your Friend/Relationship And Hopefully Help You See If It Is A Healthy One:

– Am I taking anything from this friend/relationship?

– Does spending time with him/her make me happy?

– Do I dread being in his/her presence?

– When was the last time I enjoyed being in his/her company?

– Do we have any of the same interests?

– Is it a one-sided friendship with me fitting in with his/her needs?

– Does this relationship affect my emotional health?

– Do I feel ill, emotionally drained, or have intense negative emotions after being with him/her?

– Am I being used as an emotional dumping ground?

– Does he/she have a lot of negative thoughts or anger towards me?

– Am I learning anything from spending time with him/her?

– Is being in this relationship making me grow spiritually, emotionally or other?

– Is this relationship beneficial to either of us?

– Has he/she become dependent upon me?

– What are my real reasons for staying in this relationship?

There are many reasons we encounter toxic people. A common reason being the Mirror of the Empath. Certain encounters act as a mirror and show us weaknesses or issues we need to resolve within ourselves.

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Diane Kathrine

Diane lives in Manchester, UK. She spent the past twenty years researching everything from human anatomy to the law of attraction. She is a qualified colour and crystal therapist, massage therapist, reflexologist, aromatherapist, healing practitioner, yoga and meditation teacher, and has done in-depth research into diet and nutrition and how it affects Sensitive people. In 2011 Diane wrote ‘30 Traits of an Empath’. The article has been read and shared millions of times and was just the start of her journey to assist and help re-balance the Empaths of the world.View Author posts