The 7 Types Of Toxic Friends You Should Stay Away From

types of toxic friends you should stay away from

Friends make life brighter, happier, and more exciting, don’t they? Having good friends are truly a blessing because no matter what you go through in life, they will always be there for you through it all. But what happens when instead of good friends, you have toxic friends? And worse still, you have no idea that you have toxic friends? What do you do then?

Just like having a toxic partner can end up destroying your life, having toxic friends can do the same to you; they will lurk in the dark, shadowy corners always ready to pounce on you and cause you pain. Toxic friendships can be hard to spot because no one will openly exhibit their toxicity in front of you. Rather, they will play all sorts of mind games and tricks to make you believe that they want the best for you, all the while, coming up with devious plans to harm you and hurt you as much as they can.

However, the good news is you can sometimes spot toxic friends, just by being a bit observant. And once you do, you can cut off all ties with them, and end the friendship for good so that they can never harm you again in any way.

Related: 8 Signs Of A Toxic Friendship

7 Types Of Toxic Friends You Should Always Stay Away From

1. The One Who Always Flakes.

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The 7 Types Of Toxic Friends You Should Stay Away From

Flakes are those toxic friends who are extremely unreliable and dishonest, who can leave you in a lurch whenever they feel they have a better option at hand. They will make grand plans with you, but flake at the last minute. It’s perfectly okay to take a rain-check once in a while, but if it’s happening all the time, then your self-confidence takes a massive hit. You gradually start to feel that you are not good enough or fun enough to spend time with.

What gives them away?

This is that friend who always makes plans with you very excitedly and pretends to look forward to seeing you, but when the day comes for you two to meet, they cancel at the last minute. They always have a ton of excuses ready for ditching you. Sometimes they don’t even turn up, and try to gaslight you into believing that there were no plans in the first place. Worse still, they even sometimes cancel on you for ‘better’ plans and give you all sorts of sad excuses for doing that.

How can you deal with them?

So before your self-esteem takes a massive hit and goes into a downward spiral, see through their toxicity and cut all ties with them, because you deserve better. Or you can treat them as acquaintances, instead of good friends and stop giving them the respect and importance you have been giving them for all this time, and see what they do.

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The 7 Types Of Toxic Friends You Should Stay Away From

2. The One Who Is Bossy And Controlling.

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The 7 Types Of Toxic Friends You Should Stay Away From

Wanting and respecting your friend’s opinion is one thing, but being controlled by them every step of the way is just disturbing and toxic, and that’s exactly how a controlling friend behaves. They dictate every move of yours and cross all your personal boundaries, which ends up affecting your sense of identity and individuality. Just like romantic relationships, friendships should never be all-consuming.

What gives them away?

Controlling friends will always try to dictate what you should and shouldn’t do, because according to them, “they know what’s best for you and your happiness”. They will try to stop you from being friends with other people, and if you protest, they will cut you off and simply manipulate you into doing what they want you to do.

For example, if someone invites you to a party, your bossy friend will make the decision for you and simply say no to this person on your behalf; you will have no say in this. If you want to watch a certain movie with them, they will reject it and they will decide what movie you both are going to watch. It’s always about what they think you should do.

How can you deal with them?

If you feel that you have a bossy and controlling friend, then the best thing you can do is take some time off from the friendship and put some distance between you two. Build friendships with other people if you want to, but don’t tell your bossy friend that. Take control of your own life and relationships. If they react badly to you being headstrong and independent, then cut them off for good and do what makes you happy, not what they think makes you happy.

Related: 8 Signs Your Friend Is Actually A Frenemy

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Alexandra Hall

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