Sometimes keeping your ex blocked from your social media handles is the right thing to do. Breakups are hurtful, especially when all those memories resurface when you come across them on social media. You are constantly checking what your ex has been up to, where they go, or who they meet. At this point, you begin asking yourself, “Should I block my ex?”
For some, this may be a bitter move, but for others, it is necessary for that final closure and for me it is wanting my inner peace. You began to think night and day about them and asking questions like, “do I still have feelings for them” and by blocking them are you avoiding something that might hurt you more?
There are many reasons behind why you blocked them, but it’s not because you hate them, but you’re simply looking to prioritize your needs before theirs. So here’s a poem that describes why you did what you did.
Why I Blocked You Today
I blocked you today
because I was ready
to delete you
and your memories
from my life.
I was ready to clean my news feed,
getting rid of your dust.
I’m overseeing what you like
and where you are.
I’m over waiting for one like
or one comment from you.
I’m done trying to impress you
when you’re probably not even looking.
I’m done fighting for your attention
when you’re giving it to someone else.
I blocked you today
because I wanted to remember who I was
before you came into my life
and made me hate myself
I blocked you because
I have to love myself.
I blocked you so I could post things for me
instead of trying to send you a message.
Or maybe I’m trying to send
one final message to you:
you can’t reach me anymore,
you now belong to a list of strangers
I’ve never met.
You now can’t like my pictures
or see my posts
or see me.
By Rania Naim
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Wrapping up
When relationships become toxic, it is important that we let them go. It takes a lot of strength to move away from someone you were in love with but that’s what I did, I blocked my ex, and I have never been happier. You can too! Focus on loving yourself, and focus on what you need to be happy, and do that. You deserve it!
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jesus !!!
stop blocking ppl , give them a second chance
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My ‘blocked people’ list is bigger than friend list.
Don’t make such people friend at first that you need to send them to blacklist
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Aishwarya Maurya hahahaha coincidence?
It is cleansing :p
Aishwarya Maurya hahahaha coincidence?
It is cleansing :p
it takes month and sometimes thousands of hours to let it go i don’t find it easy 🙁
it takes month and sometimes thousands of hours to let it go i don’t find it easy 🙁
If your gonna ask me to type Amen,and praise Jesus one minute,and then your next post is some Bi-polar,schizophrenic raging rant,then your gone. It really is that simple.
Powerful and worth it on so many levels and in so many ways and not only on social media … well written peice
I only block coworkers lol
good idea…
I blocked you because your a Rude Maniac!! >_< base on my experience here in Facebook -_- tch
I blocked you because your a Rude Maniac!! >_< base on my experience here in Facebook -_- tch
Your loss.
Justine Alimanza
Wowza
Shared.
Been there, done that.
Blocking happens only when you are not strong enough, it means the person is still affecting you. It really doesn’t help. If you really want to detach, just let it be and slowly but surely start letting go….
That’s not possible for everyone, sometimes total detachment is required for detoxification.
He blocked me after he broke up with me because he still loved me. He couldn’t handle commitment or a long distance relationship and couldn’t handle me being part of his life still. What made it worse was we had been friends for 25yrs before we got together. Lesson learned – don’t fall in love with a friend
Sulekha Pande believe me I’ve tried – blocking allows you to only repress not get past. Detoxification happens when you choose to not let the person matter… They leave automatically. Trust me been there and it’s a fairly recent experience.
I block people and quite honestly completely forget they exist.
Maybe, just maybe, different people aren’t you. Food for thought.
Priya Sinha, healing is a process nobody can accelerate, emotional wounds take longer to heal, but as a Psychoanalyst, my suggestion is always to take your time, because if we try to rush healing, we might end up with more side effects.
I personally cut myself off totally and use my time forr other better pursuits like reading, listening to music, or writing.
IME, shutting off works wonders.
I understand your point of view, however shutting off in my experience is never a solution – I believe that is trying to accelerate the process, avoidance is only a short term solution. One will keep repeating these cycles of experiences if we use avoidance. What works better for me is quite simply slowly letting it go and yes diverting your energies into something that gives you peace inside. More importantly understanding what the experience taught me and how it has made me a better person. There is always a lesson. I prefer to understand and use it for my transformation. You don’t need to block someone or shove things under the carpet to get past it. And yes healing takes time and one has to let it happen organically….
Priya Sinha, I think you missed this part of my comment,
Take your time, because if we try to rush healing, we might end up with more side effects.
We are all psyched differently and deal with our emotional issues differently.
I appreciate your way of dealing with yours as well as I do what works for me too.
Sulekha Pande dint miss it, agree with that part 🙂
it helps a lot in my part -_- to avoid those rude maniacs cause their widespread >_<
Blocking happens only when you are not strong enough, it means the person is still affecting you. It really doesn’t help. If you really want to detach, just let it be and slowly but surely start letting go….
That’s not possible for everyone, sometimes total detachment is required for detoxification.
Sulekha Pande believe me I’ve tried – blocking allows you to only repress not get past. Detoxification happens when you choose to not let the person matter… They leave automatically. Trust me been there and it’s a fairly recent experience.
I block people and quite honestly completely forget they exist.
Maybe, just maybe, different people aren’t you. Food for thought.
Priya Sinha, healing is a process nobody can accelerate, emotional wounds take longer to heal, but as a Psychoanalyst, my suggestion is always to take your time, because if we try to rush healing, we might end up with more side effects.
I personally cut myself off totally and use my time forr other better pursuits like reading, listening to music, or writing.
IME, shutting off works wonders.
I understand your point of view, however shutting off in my experience is never a solution – I believe that is trying to accelerate the process, avoidance is only a short term solution. One will keep repeating these cycles of experiences if we use avoidance. What works better for me is quite simply slowly letting it go and yes diverting your energies into something that gives you peace inside. More importantly understanding what the experience taught me and how it has made me a better person. There is always a lesson. I prefer to understand and use it for my transformation. You don’t need to block someone or shove things under the carpet to get past it. And yes healing takes time and one has to let it happen organically….
Sulekha Pande dint miss it, agree with that part 🙂
it helps a lot in my part -_- to avoid those rude maniacs cause their widespread >_<
I agree with this. I blocked him after we first broke up, because I wasn’t strong enough to avoid looking at his page and making myself miserable. Now I’m healed, and I’ve unblocked him because my self-respect is once again strong enough to provide that boundary for me.
If you wonder if you matter to someone…you don’t.
If you wonder if you matter to someone…you don’t.
oh I love ‘delete’… our purpose is done… move on
oh I love ‘delete’… our purpose is done… move on
Blocking someone won’t help you!
Yes, it’s like the trash taking itself out! ❤️
Oh it helps me every single day. I block all the negative people. Bye!
blocking helps a lot ^__^ to avoid those rude maniacs here in facebook cause their widespread >_<
Blocking someone won’t help you!
Yes, it’s like the trash taking itself out! ❤️
Yes, it’s like the trash taking itself out.
Oh it helps me every single day. I block all the negative people. Bye!
blocking helps a lot ^__^ to avoid those rude maniacs here in facebook cause their widespread >_<
That’s sad. I’ve had to do that too. Some people have a difficult time understanding you on f/b.
It’s not like talking face to face. You never get a second chance to explain yourself. All of a sudden you’re blocked w/ no avenue to amend misunderstandings.
This only reinforces my belief that friends accept you no matter what their political agenda is or religious affiliation. Small minds seem to amass together. Better to let them be to proliferate on their own.
That’s sad. I’ve had to do that too. Some people have a difficult time understanding you on f/b.
It’s not like talking face to face. You never get a second chance to explain yourself. All of a sudden you’re blocked w/ no avenue to amend misunderstandings.
This only reinforces my belief that friends accept you no matter what their political agenda is or religious affiliation. Small minds seem to amass together. Better to let them be to proliferate on their own.
You can’t delete your memories and you shouldn’t want to. That’s what made you into who you are. Learn, forgive and grow but never forget.
You can’t delete your memories and you shouldn’t want to. That’s what made you into who you are. Learn, forgive and grow but never forget.
Freeing!
Yes. Been there, done that. Very true. There comes a time when you need to clean house.
Sandhya Rao…
❤❤❤❤❤❤❤ Awesome articleeee
This is good
There’s a saturation point and once you’re there, it’s a done deal…over.
There’s a saturation point and once you’re there, it’s a done deal…over.
Ghie Lasala Lloderes
Patricia Ortiz did that last night after the pics I saw he posted….
I saw the pics. I knew you would. Its all good in da hood gurl! Te quitaste un gran peso
Talha Sultan…?
But unfortunately. U can’t
Yar mein parhna tha yeah is liye likhaa thaa
I forgot in library
So well said on many points…!!
Yes!
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Anyhow, one day I will stop posting on FB…Whatever reason, ,,
Thing comes and Go…
Dont too attached