We get so focused on the final outcome that we fail to experience the true essence of life as we desperately wait for the expected outcome to be realized. And when our expectations are not met, we regret investing so much time, effort and emotions into our expectations. We curse our luck and believe life is unfair. The future we envisaged has now been shattered. Our mind loses it’s peace and happiness gets replaced by disappointment.
Experience the true essence of life.
When you let go of expectations, open your mind and accept change, you will start observing and experiencing life for what it truly is and prepare yourself for future challenges. The very nature of life is chaos. Expecting that you will easily avoid or overcome the ups and downs of life and have a smooth ride all the way will only set you up for failure. The greatest experiences in life come from events we least expect, earning your college degree, getting a new job, getting married or meeting someone new. To experience these events fully, we need to accept change and open our minds to new opportunities. By closing an old chapter of your life, you will be able to start writing a new one. It might not be easy, but it will be worth it.
Expectations often hold us back and we fail to accept the gifts life brings us.
But you can expect!
If you must expect, then expect that life will change and evolve with time. No matter what you are going through now, it will not be permanent. Great things will happen, new opportunities will arise and you will experience some beautiful and terrible moments in the course of your life. As long as you know that you have the strength inside you to stand back up, everything will be just fine. This is not the first time you have faced a challenge and survived. Is it?
Nothing remains the same in life. You will meet people, get close with them, share exciting moments and someday you will stop seeing them. You will be in certain events, discover new things, and one day those situations will cease to exist. This is how life works. And it’s not as bad as you may think right now.
How to let go of expectations
Letting go of expectations is not easy. You need to develop mental strength, rewire your thought patterns, and get better control on your emotional responses.
Here are certain traits that you need to develop that will help you gain the necessary mental strength and start letting your expectations go.
#1 Be open minded
Open yourself to new and unexpected possibilities that may occur in life. Understand that you cannot truly control anything except yourself. So instead of being focused on a certain outcome that may or may not happen in the future, focus on the process. When you become more invested in the process, life will take you to a great new destination, even if it is not the one you wanted. As a result, you will significantly minimize any feelings of sorrow and disappointment.
#2 Be resilient
Only by becoming mentally strong and resilient you can become unshakable in life irrespective of what life throws at you. Being resilient will help you break free of any expectation. Once you gain the mental strength to face any challenge, you will become more accepting towards multiple outcomes instead of tying yourself to a particular one inside your mind.
#3 Be realistic
Observe the real situation more closely without getting emotionally involved in it. Once your thoughts are based on the present reality, you will be better prepared for even the most unexpected future. Information is power. The more realistic you are, the more you will know and the smarter decisions you will take in life.
#4 Nurture your self-esteem
Self-esteem is perhaps the most crucial element is developing a stronger, more resilient mind. Have faith in yourself, believe that you can overcome whatever you are facing and practice self-love. This is the secret to being a stronger version of yourself.
#5 Practice gratitude
Start focusing on the positive side of life instead of getting sucked into the darkness of expectations. In your current situation, try to find five things that are positive and make you feel good. By forcing your mind to focus on the brighter side of life, your mentality will shift to a more abundance mindset. You will look at the better side of any situation and avoid feelings of disappointment.