How To Overcome Expectation

How To Overcome Expectation

A short soul reading for a joyful and more fulfilling relationship with ourselves, and others.

The fire and ice, the wonderful inner journey of life.

In this journey, I can understand the following and, on this occasion, not as the observer of myself, but the observer of the “whole”. If we possess the tools and dispose the correct use of them, we learn how to handle them properly and we can coordinate. This is like, when we dispose of how to operate an industrial tool or handle equipment.

No matter how much we aim to facilitate our work, if we do not possess the knowledge on how to use it correctly and properly, we can easily lose an arm, our legs or even die. Our abilities are the same. We discover them, but we do not know what to do with them. Or, even worse, we use them incorrectly.


Discovering and accepting our true self

To know who we are, first we have to discover our fears, the feelings that lead our behaviors. In the same way, we put up resistance and barriers to become. Everyone has a healthy picture about who they are, but they are still not able to accept that. From this to there, will form the “who I am not”, which is just our inability to accept who we are, to embrace the perfect picture created of ourselves. Hence, this picture is just an illusion, the process of discovering who we are, as simple as this is, is more difficult through “who we are not”. The first thought people have when hearing about “who I am not” is a comparison; that we have to compare ourselves with others, being unaware. Ergo, by doing so, we judge. If we judge, one day we will have to face the same problem, as we have to experience what we judged. As what we do not understand attempts to reveal itself, it challenges the universal powers to teach us and make us understand, unconsciously and unwilling. Not to mention, we lose our aim, the self-knowledge. The more experience we gain from what we cannot understand, no teaching will be drowned as we do not understand the intention of the experiences. To know what we are not, we have to identify with our superego, the higher and the divine self.


Embracing Change

I cannot persuade others to do certain things unless they are open to it. However, in the meantime, it is completely useless to think about it. If I see the beauty, I cannot choose to have a nervous breakdown because I was unsuccessful, that I was unable to make others understand the beauty, when I was trying to share the joy. It started a debate and I became my dark self. I cannot force anyone to possess love or understanding; it is a self-worth and self-competence task. Everyone has to grow up for this by themselves. Going forward, we are only responsible for the things we can change. Everything we can change will be a success in our life; it is our approach to our future life. As a result, therefore, we develop our approach towards ourselves. Discipline, educate, raise and grow ourselves. But if I set impossible targets and I see them as my personal tools towards achieving my goals as mentioned above, I truncate this approach. I will have already mutilated my attitude to life, regardless of my further intentions, thoughts and acts. Basically, my attitude to life was genuinely mutilated by myself.


Defining Our goals

Bad planning may cause plenty of problems, but a bad path as a leading tool towards my goals can be a complete disaster! The impossible outsider, called the bad goal. A bad goal may ruin us only because it transforms into mood, to a way of being and it is normal to work like this, as our goal is our journey. You may now ask: “Then, how is that?”

It is like this in the case of the realization of our greatest goals, in which we become our goal; it is no longer something we wish to reach. It is something that we become; the process to become what we are. The realization of our greatest goals is self-accomplishment, to be consummate and more loving within and in what we do. So, there is nothing to worry about. For this reason, it is very important to ask ourselves: What were my thoughts today? What did I say and do today? How about yesterday and every day over the years, did it not become my target towards my goal without being aware of it? Did it not become an unconscious goal, or my goal unconsciously? As we know, only to remind you, our path is our goal. So, if our path is an unconscious one, fulfilled with self-sorrow, anger, anxiety, rushing around and having a feeling that we will never arrive, all those actions and non-actions related to others, become our unconscious goal unwittingly. Everyone’s goal is entire and flawless, but the tools are not definite, which cannot serve the purpose. That is why we cannot succeed because we are unable to convince ourselves of the possibility to achieve. Even so, it reveals their true being, we still stay attached to our old embedded unconscious habits, meanwhile condemning ourselves. We have to wake up and ask ourselves: By chance, did my path not become my unconscious goal and my life unconsciously purposeless? Did my journey become an unmanageable goal and my life unconsciously uncontrollable? My way of life did not become an unconscious life, and my unconscious life did not become my unconscious goal, and my whole life purposeless? A lifestyle without awareness is purposelessly wandering along the seemingly infinite path of life, a deliberate unconscious migration.

Because everything we think, our monologue and our inner dialog, extends to and affects our vocation. The vocation is transformed into our life conduct; we have to live in our small cage, whilst life is without boundaries. Since the desire-body is nourished by my goals, if I want to feed this desire-body with impossible goals, it will transform into a pain- body, which is desirable for all diseases and for all physical transformations toward malformations.

My name is Melania Eross and I'm the author of the book <a href="">Anxiety-The world's number one best seller</a> and I'm all about to share self-consciousness and self-awareness.