Do You Feel Like An Outsider Looking In? Why It’s Not A Bad Thing

Do You Feel Like An Outsider Looking In? Why It's Not A Bad Thing

Unfortunately, we’re often taught that being an outsider is a “bad” thing, and no wonder — biologically we are made to stay within the safe confines of our species’ groups. But there comes a moment in life where “playing by the book” is seen to be a miserable and unfulfilling absurdity. (Just look at all those people who followed the rules, got a good career, wife, children, solid salary, socially-approved status … and ended up miserable, empty, lonely, killing themselves, or dying prematurely due to stress-related illnesses. I’m sure you know one, or a dozen.)

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So while being an outsider may seem isolating, it is actually profoundly beneficial for your life. I wish everyone had the opportunity to feel like an outsider because being an outsider is a catalyst for self-fulfillment, self-mastery, and self-realization.

If you have ever read the archetypal story of The Hero’s Journey from Joseph Campbell (that is repeated in every culture, time, and period), you’ll realize that being an outsider is actually necessary for finding your true meaning and purpose in life. So the very fact that you feel like an outsider is actually a good sign: you’re on the right path!

It’s important that we learn to think of being a lone wolf or free spirit as a good thing. Many indigenous cultures, such as those in Africa and Australia, actually encourage the younger members to go out alone in the wilderness to find themselves as a rite of passage. Without accepting that isolation is part of experiencing true connectedness, we get lost very easily. We start believing everything is wrong with us, when in fact, we are simply being driven to pursue something of more depth and spiritual significance.

If you are receptive to your soul, it is only natural that you will feel displaced in this world. But that is not necessarily a bad thing.

Here are some major benefits of being an outsider:

1. You are no longer constrained by the rules and beliefs of society as you can easily see through them.

2. You are no longer brainwashed to think and act in a certain way.

3. You have more freedom to listen to the voice within yourself more often.

4. You have enough solitude to hear and understand what your heart really wants to do.

5. You can see the bigger picture and not get lost in the details.

6. You can connect with your soul more easily than others.

7. You have been given the space and room to grow in whatever way you like.

8. You have the opportunity to experience greater connection by finding a like-minded group of people, or soul group.

9. The ability to observe others gives you a greater capacity for wisdom and also compassion.

10. You have the necessary catalyst to experience self-fulfillment and self-realization should you choose that path.

Although being an outsider can be terribly lonely, it is a privileged position. Leaving the herd of humanity allows you to flourish and blossom in ways you never could experience while being “normal” and socially “acceptable.”

Finally, here’s a quote from Eckhart Tolle’s book (The Power of Now p. 173);

Being an outsider, to some extent … makes life difficult, but it also places you at an advantage as far as enlightenment is concerned. It takes you out of unconsciousness almost by force.


Being an outsider is not a bad thing like most people would want you to believe. Our society has been dictating and advocating a lot of the wrong things for centuries. So, if you feel like an outsider, be proud of that and own it. Love yourself enough to know that sometimes, it’s okay to be different than the rest of the herd.

If you want to know more about feeling like an outsider, then check out this video below:

Written by ALETHEIA LUNA
Originally appeared in LONERWOLF

Do You Feel Like An Outsider Looking In? Why It's Not A Bad Thing

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