Reasons Why A Narcissist Cannot Have A Deep Connection with anyone

 August 27, 2017




A Narcissist Cannot Have A Deep Connection with anyone- Here’s why.

The proud, young and beautiful hunter, born of a river god and a water-nymph loved to disdain the affections of people who fell in love with him.

Nemesis, goddess of just-desserts, on seeing this attracts him to a pool of water where he sees the image of his own beautiful face and sits gazing at it, soon losing his mind over his own beauty and failing to perceive that what he saw was but an illusion.

In time he withered away and died, only to be metamorphosed into a flower that bore his name, blooming by the waterside, still gazing at its own reflection.

This was, in brief, the story of the hunter Narcissus from whom springs the term “narcissism”. As very evident from the story, narcissism is an overt obsessive fixation about one’s own self, one’s own physical appearance and the public perception and admiration of the same.




It can be extrapolated to a general sense of superiority and a need to prove it even if it doesn’t make sense. Also, like mentioned before, narcissism is also partly about fixating on the public approval/admiration of oneself. Rejection is something that narcissists can’t handle.

This condition is often times damaging to any relationship, but is especially bitter when it comes to a romantic one since the success of a romantic relationship is highly dependent on mutual equality and mutual approval.

As a matter of fact, it can be much worse than just an unhappy relationship; Abusers and narcissists do share quite the set of characteristics.

Firstly, none of them are particularly empathetic.

Secondly, they are both control freaks. Having the upper hand is always on the top of their lists.

Thirdly, and this is especially organic to a narcissist’s character, they are self-absorbed.

 

The worse part is, it is very difficult to make distinctions:

Both start off with a lot of charisma (which is after all the appeal of a narcissist in the first place)

but

slowly undergo changes that exhibit their insidious nature.

Women dating narcissistic men often misconstrue such signs of obsession to be signs of deep love and caring. A good example would be the jealousy directed towards male friends. What the woman should ideally see is the man sizing down the opposition and not them being “passionately in love”.

 

Extrapolating from this, narcissists are also highly likely to be domestic abusers. Kent State University researchers suggest that “the anger, hostility, and short fuse that accompany a man’s narcissism tend to be directed toward straight women.”




They go on to say that “narcissistic men can become enraged when they are denied gratification… including when people reject them.”

According to a University of Munster research (2017), narcissists inflate their self-love in two ways; the researchers christened it “NARC”: The Narcissistic Admiration and Rivalry Concept.

The Admiration aspect of it deals with social admiration and the taste for the positive outcomes of such acceptances. The Rivalry aspect deals with the inability to accept someone else as the center of attention and to cope with it by constantly trying to outdo others, in an unhealthy way.




One comment on “Reasons Why A Narcissist Cannot Have A Deep Connection with anyone

  1. Wow this is one of the WORST articles ive ever read on this subject……seriously im appaled by the lack of general knowledge and also by the writing manner. Might want to do some research ok?

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