The best things usually take time, which is why most people choose not to rush into a relationship, especially during Valentine’s season!
The social picture doesn’t get enough admiration on Valentine’s day when it’s just one person in it, regardless of what you’re wearing or where you’re posing from that day.
Thoughts like; “I spent the Christmas holiday all alone, do I have to go through the same suffering for valentine?” might force you to do what you know you’re not really ready for.
“The right man comes at the right time.”
So are you going to let social pressure make you do when you are clearly not ready for it? Do you want to rush into a relationship because you desire to have a perfect 24 hours — sometimes just 12 hours? I mean you’ve got to sleep right? There are many reasons why you must not rush into a relationship during Valentine’s season, no matter how much you might want to.
5 reasons why should not rush into a relationship during Valentine’s season:
1. You May Compromise Yourself
The rush of getting a “bae” for Valentine’s Day may sometimes make you compromise and do things that you don’t really want to do.
The first thing you need to know is whenever we do things in a hurry, we usually don’t end up with the best results and we also end up stressing ourselves to burnout.
“There are people out there who are waiting to meet you. Waiting to love you. You have to stick around for them.” – Benedict Smith
You may end up hurting your existing relationships, push family and friends away UNCONSCIOUSLY because you’re focused on spending more time with your new bae0.
Your desperation could also make people who like you (that you’re bugging for dates) begin to avoid you or stay away from you.
Other than that, even when you finally secure your bae, you may end up saying things that you don’t mean – things that are against your values or make promises that you know you can’t keep, just so you don’t wrong them and get on their bad side.
2. You Might Miss Reality
As you already know, love takes time, and it’s not something that happens overnight. If you rush into a relationship because of valentine’s day, it usually won’t be led by love, even if you say “it’s love at first sight”.
The truth is everything good takes time. You’re most likely not going to get the best if you don’t give it time to blossom.
Rushing into a relationship doesn’t give you room for understanding yourself properly. Your intuition might tell you that they might like something, but when you buy it and give it to them, they end up making faces and hating it.
Another way you might miss reality is that you won’t get to see them for who they truly are. Then you’d start thinking “if only I gave it more time”, but by then it will be too late.
Making the wrong decision during this season can make you go through a lot of pain in the future if you do not properly think everything through.
3. You Might End Up Doing Too Much But Not Enough
In order to please them from every aspect, so that they don’t find reasons to say no, you’re going to do everything remotely possible to make them happy.
But what you might not realize is that most of the things you’re going to do are not what they really want. Because at that stage, you do things which you THINK IS RIGHT, not what they actually and really want.
Sometimes, your friends might tell you, you’re not on the right path, but you’re going to ignore them because they seem like an obstacle to your goal.
4. You Won’t Be Able to Tell If It’s Real
It’s somewhat inevitable that at this stage when you want to get into a relationship, you will want to pamper them, buy buying them expensive gifts and whatnot. This is because your mind is telling you that the best way to make them stick around, is by satisfying them with material things.