Deep Secrets and Inner Child Healing: How To Connect With Your Inner Child

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If, for example, you’re considering writing a letter, tell your inner child that you recognize him or her and that your intention is to do everything in your power to heal his or her wounds. Some people say that after they’ve written a few letters to their inner child, they find that the child writes back. Sometimes many answers can emerge. In letters or verbal communication, it’s important to ask the inner child what he or she is feeling and what is needed right now. By maintaining a dialogue, healing and transformation can more effectively occur.

Only by loving and healing our inner child can we begin to love ourselves and then, consequently, others. It’s also a way to empower ourselves and focus on mindfulness and the present… and not the past.

How To Connect With Your Inner Child:

  • Formulate a dialogue.
  • Write a letter to him or her.
  • Say nurturing things (I love you, I hear you, thank you, I’m sorry).
  • Look at photos of yourself as a child.
  • Think and write about what you loved doing when you were young.
  • Engage in meditation and creative visualization.
Things Your Inner Child Might Need To Hear
Deep Secrets and Inner Child Healing: How To Connect With Your Inner Child

Related: How Self Love Is The Key To Codependency Recovery

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Diamond, S. (2008). “Essential Secrets of Psychotherapy: The Inner Child,” Psychology Today. June 7.
Hanh, T.N. (2010). Reconciliation: Healing the Inner Child. Berkeley, CA: Parallax Press.
Miller, A. (2007). The Drama of the Gifted Child. New York, NY: Perseus Book Group.
Raab, D. (2017). Writing for Bliss: A Seven-Step Plan for Telling Your Story and Transforming Your Life. Ann Arbor, MI: Loving Healing Press.

Written by: Diana Raab, MFA, Ph.D
Originally appeared on:Psychology Today
Republished with permission
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Diana Raab Ph.D.

Diana Raab, Ph.D. is a memoirist, poet, essayist, blogger, and speaker. She presents workshops in writing for healing and transformation. She has a Ph.D. in Psychology with a concentration in Transpersonal Psychology with a research focus on the healing and transformative powers of memoir writing. Her educational background also includes health administration, nursing, and creative writing. Diana has been writing since an early age. As an only child of two immigrant parents, she spent a lot of time crafting letters and chronicling her life in a journal. As an advocate of personal writing, Diana facilitates workshops in writing for transformation and empowerment, focusing on journaling, poetry and memoir writing. She believes in the importance of writing to achieve wholeness and interconnectedness while encouraging the ability to unleash the true voice of the inner self.View Author posts