Why you should date a Beta male, not an Alpha Man. Alpha personalities versus Beta personalities. Which one is better for you?
I don’t know about you, but so many of the women I have known in my life all have one thing in common. They go for the bad boys, or at least they did do until they got the secret I discovered the hard way.
I was hooked on a bad boy when I was young. I would never have dreamed of dating a Beta male. My attraction to him was instantaneous and intense.
The connection I felt to him was such as I hadn’t felt before. He consumed me. I felt safe.
He was going to deliver this wonderful happy-ever-after he promised. After all, he told me I was the only one for him, unlike any girl who’d come before.
It was a whirlwind romance. But it descended into a terrifying, exciting rollercoaster. There were tumultuous fireworks, followed by chasms of hurt and pain. Round and round in a crazy cycle.
It scraped bottom with me almost losing my life, as he squeezed my throat and told me to die.
I stayed with him for some time, even after that. The effect he had on me I can’t describe. It was like a magnet that pulled me back and I was powerless to stop its force.
I’d leave and stay strong, for a time. But then the pain of leaving him was so great, I craved that high he could give me once again.
‘I’m sorry, I’ll never do it again. I need you more than ever to help me change’ was all it took. I just wanted him to sweep me into his arms again and everything would be okay. But of course, it wasn’t.
I did find the courage to leave, but only after marrying him and having his baby. I thought that each of these acts would finally prove I was worthy of him and make the relationship work. I was wrong.
I learned the hard way that two people who are as insecure as each other will never fulfill each other’s needs. The relationship was doomed from the start.
You could describe me, I guess, as an Alpha female. The mirror to him in away. But all that confidence and cockiness I had when I was young, belied the truth that I never felt good enough. Deep down he was the same as me. Our baggage matched.
But I could hide my insecurities behind this role I played. Rescuer. I could be the one to bring out the ‘real him’, patch up his hurt inside. It hid the fact it was me I needed to fix.
It took me years to understand I confused those fireworks with love.
That matching baggage feels familiar and comfortable. It felt right like we just fit. But that didn’t mean it was a healthy match.
It took many more to see myself for who I was, a frightened child inside the body of an adult. It hurt to see her. But I finally knew what I had to do to heal.
Focus on her, learn to love myself and accept that I am good enough. I deserve better.
Then I met my Beta boy. I started to date a Beta male. I did it right this time when I married him. It turns out he’s the most Alpha man I know.
“The true measure of a man is how he treats someone who can do him absolutely no good.” – Samuel Johnson
I wish I’d known this secret about men when I was young, so now I want to spread the word.
Falling in love and dating a Beta male is the way to go. Here’s why:
7 Reasons Why You Should Date A Beta Male
1. Beta boys are emotionally available.
Okay, before I get a barrage of arguments to the contrary, I’m not saying all Alpha men are bad boys. But the ones who are, are all bluff and no substance.