7 Signs Your Partner Is Feeding Your Self-Doubt on Purpose

This is how you will know that your partner is feeding your self- doubt on purpose.

Are You Being “Gaslighted” By the Narcissist in Your Life?

The term “Gaslight” comes from the Academy Award-winning 1944 film by the same name in which a man systematically sets out to drive his wife crazy by making her doubt the reality of her own perceptions.

Today that term has been expanded to describe a wider range of behaviors, in which one member of a couple tries to manipulate the other person to accept things as true that are patently false.

Generally, modern-day gaslighting takes place in the context of a relationship in which one partner is manipulative, self-centered, low on empathy, and has a vested interest in always being right. This is an apt description of many people who have Narcissistic Personality Disorder.

If you are in a relationship with someone with this disorder, there is a good chance you have experienced gaslighting yourself. If you have ever wondered why your level of self-doubt and confusion rises when you are with such a partner, here are seven questions to ask yourself that can help you determine if your mate is feeding your self-doubt on purpose.


7 signs that your partner is feeding your self-doubt on purpose.


Do they try to persuade you to doubt the evidence of your senses and what you are thinking and feeling?


Do they try to convince you that what you believe is wrong, and what they believe is right?


Do they react badly if you do not accept their version of the truth?


Are they extremely persistent and sometimes keep the argument going long after you have asked them to please drop the issue?


Do they attempt to bully you into admitting that they are 100 percent right, and you are completely wrong?


Are the facts always twisted so that they are the victim, and you are always at fault?


Do they twist and turn the truth and make such long and complicated arguments to prove their points that, after a while, you become thoroughly confused?

If you find yourself answering “yes” to many of the above questions, you may be being gaslighted.

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Dr. Elinor Greenberg PhD, CGPhttp://www.elinorgreenberg.com/
Elinor Greenberg, Ph.D., CGP, is an internationally renowned Gestalt therapy trainer who specializes in teaching the diagnosis and treatment of Borderline, Narcissistic, and Schizoid adaptations in a lively and practical way. She has trained psychotherapists in her approach in the US, Norway, Sweden, Wales, England, Russia, and Mexico.
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