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8 Reasons Why Intelligent People Lack Social Skills

Do you ever have trouble making conversation with others even though you consider yourself to be a very intelligent person? If so, this may puzzle you. You may wonder why you are so poor at making conversation with others, even though you are very smart, and you know a lot of interesting things.

The truth is that social skills and intelligence don’t necessarily go together.

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Why is it that some very smart people can be so socially inept or socially awkward?

So I’ve put together this short list of ways your intelligence makes you FAIL in social situations… and what to do about it.Here are some of the reasons why very intelligent, very creative people often have difficulty in making small talk conversation successfully:

 

1. They Seek Information Instead of Developing Skills

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 Through practice. Doing something over and over again is what allows you to develop a skill. Sure, there’s some basic training you NEED to go through, but to go from being bad to good in a skill… you’ll have to put in the time and effort.Yet there’s a lot of socially inept people who don’t treat social skills in this way. Instead they look for the one last magic piece of information that will solve all their problems.

And you don’t get them by THINKING about them, you get them by GETTING them.This means you’ll learn more by in 2 hours of actually getting out of the house and talking to people than you will in 20 hours of “education”.

 

2. They Think Too Much

It’s because being social and contributing to a conversation is not a problem to be solved by thinking. It’s more about an energetic and spontaneous expression of how you’re feeling.

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You should rely more on speaking from your GUT feeling and instinct instead of trying to carefully plan and think through everything you say.

If you can’t think of what to say, you probably go on thinking and thinking and thinking. Taxing your brain to come up with some good and interesting conversation topic to talk about.

Never realizing that THINKING TOO MUCH is the main reason you have a problem speaking up more to begin with!

 

3. They Psych Themselves Out

 Your mind is designed to remember the past or simulate the future to help you survive in life.  Smart people take this future simulating and risk avoiding nature of the brain way too far sometimes. How? By coming up with all of the reasons why everything will not work when it comes to social situations.

For example, maybe you want to ask a girl out on a date. But then your mind imagines and you create an awkward silenceand then you say “Hi”… And you imagine her saying “No”… and then her telling everyone else in the world about what a loser and a creep you are… and then you have to see her every day still and try to avoid feeling super awkward. And finally you dont ask her out.

 

4. Are you getting the picture here?

Imagining the worst that can happen causes you to not even try. You probably avoid a lot of parties, conversations and social situations for fear of the worst happening… all thanks to your smart mind which has made you see all the “risks.”

Usually, failure is not as big a deal as your mind makes it out to be. You ask a girl out, she says no… and life goes on. You feel bad about it for a few days, and within 2 weeks you no longer really remember it much. And beyond that…

The little failures are necessary to improve your skills. Failing in one conversation is not nearly as bad as the consequences of avoiding taking risks in general.

 

5. They Can’t Deal With Fear And Other Emotions

An intelligent person’s strength is often their logic, which means their weakness is emotions.

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John Moreau

True.

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Hi there! I am someone who if given the option can read books all day, without even sleeping. I love binging on TV shows, with Game of Thrones being my favorite (duh!). Apart from that, I am passionate about writing and can write anytime and anywhere.
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