“The positive thinker sees the invisible, feels the intangible, and achieves the impossible.” ~ Unknown
It’s so much easier to be pessimistic than to be optimistic, isn’t it? To look at the half-empty glass instead of the half-full glass, to criticize and complain instead of expressing our appreciation and gratitude for everything that happens to us and all around us. Well, not anymore. Today I want to present you with 8 steps toward more healthy and positive thinking and hopefully you will realize that it’s a lot easier to be positive than to be negative, and it’s a lot easier and healthier to be optimistic than pessimistic.
1. Always focus on what you want rather than what you don’t want.
The mistake that most of us make when having a problem is to talk about it over and over again instead of focusing on the end result, instead of focusing on what we want to achieve.
2. Know that every problem comes with a lesson.
There is always a lesson in everything that happens to us, and we should constantly look for what that lesson is and master it, because you see, just like Confucius said: “If you make a mistake and do not correct it, this is called a mistake.”
3. Don’t believe everything you think.
Our problems aren’t as big as our minds are trying to convince us, and if you choose to believe every negative thought that goes through your mind, you will always get into trouble. Observe your mind, observe your thoughts, but don’t identify yourself with them. Go beyond them.
4. Dwell in gratitude.
Choose to express gratitude for everything that happens to you, whether good or bad, and for every person with whom you interact. The more you express your gratitude, the more you will have to express gratitude for, and when you’re busy focusing on the many things that you are grateful for, there will be no room left for stress and worry, there will be no room left for negativity.
5. Know that there is a reason for everything
Everything that happens to you, happens for a reason and every person who enters your life enters for a reason, and it’s your responsibility not to label them as being good or bad, negative or positive, etc.
6. Let go of your need for perfection.
When you try to do everything perfectly, you meet with stress and frustration, because it is impossible to be perfect in everything you do, and why would you want to be perfect anyway? Don’t you know that perfection leaves no room for improvement?
7. Let go of your resistance.
Accept things as they are without you trying to change them, without trying to fight against them. When you stress over an outcome and when you resist what is, you are in fact fighting against the present moment, against the present reality, against the whole universe, and believe me, this is a battle you will never win. Allow yourself to just be. Go with the flow, and know that life wasn’t meant to be a struggle, even though that’s what your mind was trying to convince you of all these years.
Learn to let go and know that: “By letting it go it all gets done. The world is won by those who let it go. But when you try and try. The world is beyond the winning.” ~ Lao Tzu
8. Learn to be present in everything you do.
When you become present and really engaged in the now, your whole life will become so much easier and you will realize how your problems will start to disappear, little by little. If you get too caught up in your mind, if you think too much about what happened in the past and about what may happen in the future, you will create a great deal of pain and suffering, and the energy you will generate will be toxic, not only for yourself, but also for those around you, because you see, energy is contagious.
How do you keep your mind positive when things aren’t going the way you want them to go? When stress arises and life sends challenging people and experiences your way? You can share your insights by joining the conversation in the comment section below